Harlan Coben famous quotes

The ugliest truth, in the end, was still better than the prettiest of lies.
-- Harlan Coben

#Lying #Ends #Prettiest

Only bad writers think they're good.
-- Harlan Coben

#Thinking

Hope can be the most wonderful thing in the world or it can crush your heart like an eggshell.
-- Harlan Coben

#Crush #Heart #World

There are three things that make a person a writer: inspiration, perspiration and desperation.
-- Harlan Coben

#Inspiration #Three #Desperation

Trust is like that. You can break it for a good reason. But it still remains broken.
-- Harlan Coben

#Broken #Reason #Break

This is the price you pay for having a great father. You get the wonder, the joy, the tender moments - and you get the tears at the end, too.
-- Harlan Coben

#Father #Joy #Tears

Part of the human condition is that we all think that we are uniquely complex while everyone else is somewhat simpler to read. That is not true, of course. We all have our own dreams and hopes and wants and lust and heartaches. We all have our own brand of crazy
-- Harlan Coben

#Dream #Crazy #Thinking

I like to see the difference between good and evil as kind of like the foul line at a baseball game. It's very thin, it's made of something very flimsy like lime, and if you cross it, it really starts to blur where fair becomes foul and foul becomes fair.
-- Harlan Coben

#Baseball #Differences #Games

A novel is like a sausage. You might like the final taste but you don't want to see how it was made.
-- Harlan Coben

#Finals #Sausage #Want

You bring your own weather to the picnic.
-- Harlan Coben

#Marriage #Weather #Picnics

I try to stress to my children that buying something never leads to true happiness.
-- Harlan Coben

#Children #Stress #Trying

The actual writing time is a lot shorter than the thinking time.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #Thinking

In the end, we know what makes us happy. We also know what makes us unhappy. That's the irony. We know and yet we still mess it up. That's part of the human condition, no, and why we need to work on it.
-- Harlan Coben

#Unhappy #Needs #Irony

I used to wonder why Lucy liked those songs so much. You know what I mean? She sits in the dark and listens and cries. Music does that to her...I didn't understand for a long time. But I do now. The sad songs are a safe hurt. It's a diversion. It's controlled. And maybe it helps you imagine that real pain will be like that. But it's not. Lucy knows that, of course. You can't prepare for real pain. You just have to let it rip you apart.
-- Harlan Coben

#Song #Hurt #Pain

Writing my first book, I think in hindsight I went into it saying, 'It's gonna sell.' I was earning enough to scrape by sometime around a book or two before 'Tell No One.' I moved up from $50,000 to $75,000, then $150,000 for each book. I had never thought I would be doing anything else. I had enough encouragement.
-- Harlan Coben

#Encouragement #Book #Writing

Years fly by, but the heart stays in the same place.
-- Harlan Coben

#Love #Heart #Years

But sometimes, maybe most times, it isn't that clear. It is dark and you are near the edge of a cliff, but you're moving slowly, not sure which direction you're heading in. Your steps are tentative but they are still blind in the night. You don't realize how close you are to the edge, how the soft earth could give away, how you could just slip a bit and suddenly plunge into the dark.
-- Harlan Coben

#Moving #Dark #Night

Myron reached for the phone and dialed Win's number. After the eighth ring he began to hang up when a weak, distant voice coughed. "Hello?" Win?" Yeah." You okay?" Hello?" Win?" Yeah." What took you so long to answer the phone?" Hello?" Win?" Who is this?" Myron." Myron Bolitar?" How many other Myrons do you know?" Myron Bolitar?" No, Myron Rockefeller." Something's wrong," Win said. What?" Terribly wrong." What are you talking about?" Some ***** is calling me at seven in the morning pretending to be my best friend." Sorry, I forgot the time.
-- Harlan Coben

#Morning #Sorry #Winning

..."better to have loved and lost" bullshit. Don't show me paradise and then burn it down.
-- Harlan Coben

#Bullshit #Paradise #Lost

A dancer on break approached him. She smiled. Each tooth was angled in a different direction, as if her mouth were the masterwork of a mad orthodontist. "Hi," she said. "Hi." "You're really cute." "I don't have any money." She spun and walked away. Ah, romance.
-- Harlan Coben

#Cute #Mad #Romance

There is a certain fate to the universe and a certain randomness.
-- Harlan Coben

#Fate #Certain #Randomness

So basically your plan is to flail about helplessly.
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#Plans

For a short time, I hated them. But when you think about it, what good does that do?It takes so much to hold on to hate—you lose your grip on what's important, you know?
-- Harlan Coben

#Hate #Thinking #Important

The first sip of beer on a hot day is like that first finger-dip when you open a new jar of peanut butter.
-- Harlan Coben

#Beer #Dip #Peanut Butter

Sure, on a larger scale, it was healthy to have people out there you cared about more than yourself. She knew that. But then there was the abject fear you would lose it. They say possessions own you. Not so. Loved ones own you. You are forever held hostage once you care so much.
-- Harlan Coben

#People #Forever #Healthy

That’s the problem with falling in love. It makes you start talking like a bad country song
-- Harlan Coben

#Country #Song #Falling In Love

I wrote seven Myron Bolitar novels in a row, and I never want to write a Myron book where he just solves a crime. Every one of them I want to be personal, and I want him to grow and change. The problem with that is, it makes the series limited, you can't write a series where a guy is always going through some kind of crisis.
-- Harlan Coben

#Book #Writing #Guy

No characters in 'Stay Close,' including the leads, are black and white. I want them to be grey. I think that makes for a much more interesting reading experience, something that will stay with you a little bit longer.
-- Harlan Coben

#Reading #Character #Black And White

I'm not very happy idle. There's always this voice in my head that says, 'I should be writing.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #Voice #Should

"So basically, that entire theory is blown to hell."Not basically," Win corrected. "Entirely."
-- Harlan Coben

#Winning #Hell #Theory

In short, the satisfaction of creating, not necessarily the process, always lifts my heart.
-- Harlan Coben

#Heart #Creating #Satisfaction

I'm thinking of taking up golf, but the idea of spending time with golfers frightens me.
-- Harlan Coben

#Golf #Thinking #Ideas

The most annoying and full- of- crap thing a writer says is, I write only for myself, I don't care if anyone reads it. A writer without a reader doesn't exist.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #Care #Annoying

You want this so badly—this second chance, this chance at real redemption—that you can’t see the truth.
-- Harlan Coben

#Real #Second Chance #Redemption

Painful memories didn't just ease back in-they shoved the door open hard, all of them and all at once
-- Harlan Coben

#Memories #Doors #Ease

There are few times that I feel more at peace, more in tune, more Zen, if you will, than when I force myself to unplug.
-- Harlan Coben

#Tunes #Force #Feels

What I love about the thriller form is that it makes you write a story. You can't get lost in your own genius, which is a dangerous place for writers. You don't want to ever get complacent. If a book starts going too well, I usually know there's a problem. I need to struggle. I need that self-doubt. I need to think it's not the best thing ever.
-- Harlan Coben

#Book #Struggle #Writing

Hope is cruel. Hope reminds me of what almost was. Hope makes the physical ache return.
-- Harlan Coben

#Return #Ache

Amazing what we can self-rationalize when we really want something
-- Harlan Coben

#Self #Want

...desperation can toy with you and if you give desperation any wiggle room, it will find alternative answers
-- Harlan Coben

#Giving #Alternatives #Answers

A trial is two narratives competing for your attention.
-- Harlan Coben

#Two #Attention #Trials

You know, people call mystery novels or thrillers 'puzzles.' I never understood that, because when I buy a puzzle, I already know what it is. It's on the box. And even if I don't, if it's a 5,000-piece puzzle of the 'Mona Lisa', it's not like I put the last piece in and go, 'I had no idea it's the 'Mona Lisa'!'
-- Harlan Coben

#Ideas #People #Mystery Novels

I once worked as a tour guide in the Costa del Sol of Spain.
-- Harlan Coben

#Spain #Guides #Tour Guides

I've never chased the dollar, I've always chased the reader's heart. I love having more readers. The more people who read it, the more thrilled I am.
-- Harlan Coben

#Heart #People #Dollars

I'm the Jerry Lewis of crime fiction.
-- Harlan Coben

#Fiction #Crime #Crime Fiction

I pretty much only wear Lilly Pulitzer ties because my best friend owns the company.
-- Harlan Coben

#Friendship #Ties #My Best Friend

I'm a little bit of a control freak.
-- Harlan Coben

#Littles #Freak #Control Freak

I would never write a memoir, because it would be too boring.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #Would Be #Boring

Frankly I'm fairly boring or fairly busy. Between writing and family, I have little time for anything else.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #Littles #Busy

The state of New Jersey is really two places - terrible cities and wonderful suburbs. I live in the suburbs, the final battleground of the American dream, where people get married and have kids and try to scratch out a happy life for themselves. It's very romantic in that way, but a bit naive. I like to play with that in my work.
-- Harlan Coben

#Dream #Kids #Happy Life

Life may not always fall into neat chapters, and you may not always get the satisfying ending you're looking for, but sometimes a good explanation is all the rewrite you need.
-- Harlan Coben

#Fall #May #Needs

In real life, coincidences happen all the time. In novels, they are leapt upon with fury.
-- Harlan Coben

#Real #Coincidence #Novel

When you like something and you're pretty good at it and you can make a living doing it, you don't ask why. You just count your blessings and go with it.
-- Harlan Coben

#Blessing #Count Your Blessings #You Re Pretty

And I love the twist. I love to fool you once, I love to fool you twice, and on the very last page, quite often - very last paragraph sometimes - I like to just play with your perception one more time in a way that makes everything that came before just a little bit different.
-- Harlan Coben

#Play #Perception #Littles

I'd never had money growing up, and it's never been that important to me, except maybe to take our kids on a nice vacation or something like that.
-- Harlan Coben

#Growing Up #Nice #Kids

The muse is not an angelic voice that sits on your shoulder and sings sweetly. The muse is the most annoying whine. The muse isn't hard to find, just hard to like - she follows you everywhere, tapping you on the shoulder, demanding that you stop doing whatever else you might be doing and pay attention to her.
-- Harlan Coben

#Voice #Attention #Might

Let me back up a little and tell you why I prefer writing to real life: You can rewrite. A novel, for example, can be cleaned up, altered, trimmed, improved. Life, on the other hand, is one big messy rough draft.
-- Harlan Coben

#Real #Writing #Hands

Tragedy is a hell of a teacher. It's much too strict, but it's a hell of a teacher.
-- Harlan Coben

#Teacher #Tragedy #Hell

That's what a good crime novelist - any good novelist - should do with you: play with your perceptions while showing you everything in plain sight.
-- Harlan Coben

#Sight #Play #Perception

I don't find any real rivalries with crime and thriller writers anyway. That might sound a little Pollyanna, but for the most part the writers I compete with, if you want to use that word, it's a pretty friendly rivalry. I think we all realise that the boat rises and sinks together.
-- Harlan Coben

#Real #Thinking #Friendly

My house has too many distractions. There's the email. There's checking my Amazon ranking. I know I'm the only author who's ever done that, ever. There's the fax. Too many distractions. I like to go out and write.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #House #Done

The book I always say that influenced me, subconsciously, because at the time I didn't know I wanted to be a writer, was William Goldman's 'Marathon Man.' That was the first adult thriller that I loved. I read it when I was 15 or so, when my father gave it to me.
-- Harlan Coben

#Father #Book #Men

The preparation for building a series of thrillers based on a single character is kind of like the preparation for becoming a parent: The best part is the idea - wink, wink.
-- Harlan Coben

#Character #Ideas #Parent

The readers are the ones who let us live our dreams. I try to write books which are really compelling - that you'd take on vacation and rather than going out, you'd read in your hotel room because you had to find out what happened. Hopefully that's what readers are responding to.
-- Harlan Coben

#Dream #Book #Writing

I am, after all, a thriller writer. I routinely delve into the darkest chambers of the human heart. I've written about murder, kidnapping, depravity, horror, violence, and disfigurement.
-- Harlan Coben

#Heart #Violence #Horror

I am very lucky that I get to tell stories for a living. I love being able to grab people's attention, to keep them turning the pages, to make them stay awake all night. I want to stir the pulse, yes, but also to stir the heart. I hope 'The Woods' does that.
-- Harlan Coben

#Heart #Night #People

What I want to do is tell stories about normal people in the American suburbs. I don't write the book where it's a conspiracy reaching the prime minister; I don't write the book with the big serial killer who lops off heads. My setting is a very placid pool of suburbia, family life. And within that I can make pretty big splashes.
-- Harlan Coben

#Book #Writing #People

When I was seventeen, I worked as a counsellor at a co-ed sleep-away camp for eight weeks. I loved it but it could be harrowing - it was far too much responsibility for someone my age.
-- Harlan Coben

#Responsibility #Sleep #Eight

We're called New Jersey but we're actually the suburbs of New York.
-- Harlan Coben

#New York #Jersey

The actual writing time is a lot shorter than the thinking time. I don't do too many notes. I keep it mostly in my head. I usually start writing a new book around January, and it's due October 1.
-- Harlan Coben

#Book #Writing #Thinking

Writers always say, 'I always knew I wanted to be a writer; when I was a three-month-old foetus a pen formed in my hand and I began to scratch my first story on the inside of my mother's womb.' I started later, in my early twenties.
-- Harlan Coben

#Mother #Hands #Months

I love to make even villains people you can relate to. When you find out who did it, I think you almost like the person, which is not easy to do.
-- Harlan Coben

#Thinking #People #Villain

Kate Atkinson is an absolute must-read. I love everything she writes.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing

I love stories. When I'm writing, what I pretend subconsciously is that we're cavemen, we're sitting around the fire, and I'm telling you stories. If I bore you, you're probably going to pick up a big club and hit me over the head.
-- Harlan Coben

#Writing #Fire #Clubs

I don't necessarily love the sports per se, I love the stories behind them. Also in a kind of perverse way I like to study what it does to us, why we care so much. It's caring about something that's utterly meaningless.
-- Harlan Coben

#Sports #Caring #Doe

You can't have an up without a down, a right without a left, a back without a front - or a happy without a sad.
-- Harlan Coben

Im 48 years old, not a kid anymore by any definition, but here is a universal truth that every adult at some point will realize: We are all always 17 years old, waiting for our lives to begin.
-- Harlan Coben

#Kids #Years #Waiting

I always think the insecurity is going to go away, but it's always there. Only bad writers think they're good.
-- Harlan Coben

#Thinking #Insecurity #Going Away

Sometimes even when the book is over I dont know whos good and whos bad. Its really more interesting, I think, to write about gray characters than it is to write about black and white.
-- Harlan Coben

#Book #Writing #Character

There's always a price you pay when you lie. Once you introduce a lie into a relationship, even for the best of intentions, it is always there. Whenever you’re with that person again, that lie is in the room too. It sits on your shoulder. Good lie or bad lie, it's in the room with you forever now. It's your constant companion.
-- Harlan Coben

#Lying #Forever #Pay

Sometimes the loudest cries for help are silent.
-- Harlan Coben

#Helping #Sometimes #Cry

No, I don’t live in heartache. I don’t cry myself to sleep or any of that. I am, I tell myself, over it. But I do feel a void, icky as that sounds. And—like it or not—I still think about her every single day.
-- Harlan Coben

#Sleep #Thinking #Heartache

Its funny how you can let yourself forget for seconds, how even in the heat of the horrible, you can have moments when you fool yourself into thinking it might all be okay
-- Harlan Coben

#Thinking #Might #Fool

Genius is a curse. That's how I look at it. Some think that the brilliant comprehend the universe in a way the rest of us can't. They see the world how it truly is—and that reality is so horrible the lose their minds. Clarity leads to insanity.
-- Harlan Coben

#Thinking #Reality #Insanity

Man plans. God laughs.
-- Harlan Coben

#Men #Laughing #Plans

This was a place where tattoos outnumbered teeth.
-- Harlan Coben

#Tattoo #Teeth

There is the old catch-22 line that a mentally unstable person can't know, as per their illness, that they are unstable. But that was wrong. You can and do have the insight to see your own crazy.
-- Harlan Coben

#Crazy #Lines #Illness

An hour before his world exploded like a ripe tomato under a stiletto heel, Myron bit into a fresh pastry that tasted suspiciously like urinal cake.
-- Harlan Coben

#Cake #Tomatoes #World

It was one lesson he never forgot.You don't sit back when you or a loved one is being assaulted.And you don't act like the goverment with their "proportional responses" and all that nonsense.If someone hurts you,mercy and pity must be put aside,You eliminate the enemy.You scorch the earth.
-- Harlan Coben

#Hurt #Enemy #Lessons

I wish i could tell you that through the tragedy i mined some undiscovered, life-altering absolute that i could pass on to you.I didn't.The cliches apply-people are what count,life is precious,materialism is over rated, and the little things matter,live in the moment-and i can repeat them to you ad nauseam.you might listen, but you won't internalize.Tragedy hammers it hm.Tragedy etches into your soul.You might not be happier.But you will be better.
-- Harlan Coben

#People #Soul #Live In The Moment

Summer romances cometo an end. That was part of the deal. They are built like certain plants or insects, not able to survive more than one season. I thought we would be different. We were, I guess, but not in the way I thought. I truly believed that we would never let each other go. The young are so dumb.
-- Harlan Coben

#Summer #Romance #Dumb

Kids don’t do what their parents say-they do what they see their parents do. So who was to blame here?
-- Harlan Coben

#Kids #Parent #Blame

Getting into a fight with a popular senior. Pissing off a school teacher and the local chief of police. Hanging with two major-league losers." She slapped my back. "Welcome to high school.
-- Harlan Coben

#Senior #Teacher #School

You don't worry about happiness and fulfilment when you're starving.
-- Harlan Coben

#Worry #Starving #Fulfilment

I remember one time I heard this English professor asking the class what the world's scariest noise is. Is it a man crying out in pain? A woman's scream of terror? A gunshot? A baby crying? And the professor shakes his head and says, 'No, the scariest noise is, you're all alone in your dark house, you know you're all alone, you know that there is no chance anyone else is home or within miles—and then, suddenly, from upstairs, you hear the toilet flush.
-- Harlan Coben

#Baby #Pain #Home

Memories, you see, hurt. The good ones most of all.
-- Harlan Coben

#Hurt #Memories