Melody Beattie famous quotes

Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Knowing #Trying

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
-- Melody Beattie

#Happiness #Thank You #Thanksgiving

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
-- Melody Beattie

#Inspirational #Thankful #Gratitude

Today I will do something just for the fun of it. I will find something to do that's just for me and I won't worry about what I should be doing. I will learn how to make myself feel good and enjoy life to the fullest.
-- Melody Beattie

#Fun #Positive Thinking #Worry

Today I will simply accept. I will relinquish the need to be in resistance to myself and my environment in any way. I will move forward in joy by accepting where I am right now.
-- Melody Beattie

#Moving Forward #Joy #Today

Today I will tell myself that I'm lovable. Just because some people haven't been able to love me in ways that worked doesn't mean that I'm unlovable. I've had lessons to learn, and some of them have hurt deeply, but I can still love, and I still am loved.
-- Melody Beattie

#Hurt #Mean #People

If somebody rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected.
-- Melody Beattie

#Real #Healing #Choices

Today I will not wait for someone to come to my aid. I'm not helpless. Although help may come, I'm my own rescuer. My relationships will dramatically improve when I stop rescuing others and stop expecting others to rescue me.
-- Melody Beattie

#Waiting #May #Today

Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Relax #Be Patient

Love yourself just as you are.
-- Melody Beattie

#Love You #Love Yourself

Today I will refuse to jump into the middle of others' affairs, issues, and relationships. I will trust others to work out their own problems, including the ideas and feelings they want to communicate to each other.
-- Melody Beattie

#Ideas #Issues #Work Out

Today I will learn to reject shame. Shame is an overwhelming sense that who I am isn't good enough. I realize that I am good enough, and that my imperfections are part of being human. I let go of shame.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Who I Am #Imperfection

Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Giving Up #Kindness

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.
-- Melody Beattie

#New Year #Book #Writing

I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.
-- Melody Beattie

#Thinking #People #Want

Seek healing, a refilling of energy and spirit, as soon as you see that you need it. You don't have to push yourself to give, do, or perform when what your body, mind, soul and emotions need is to heal.
-- Melody Beattie

#Healing #Giving #Soul

Today I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. Instead, I will choose to like and approve of myself. The people who count (including me) will respect me when I'm true to who I really am.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #People #Today

Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.
-- Melody Beattie

#Pain #Real #Responsibility

...the plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us.
-- Melody Beattie

#Spite #Plans

I gave three years of my life to take care of my dying mother who had Alzheimer's disease. Being there for her every need for three years might have looked codependent but it wasn't because it was what I wanted to do.
-- Melody Beattie

#Mother #Years

I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214
-- Melody Beattie

#Simple #Trying #Despair

Perspective will come in retrospect.
-- Melody Beattie

#Perspective #Retrospect

Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life's magic free.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Ideas #Choices

When we're surrounded by things that look impossible, making a simple choice to do something that's possible is a powerful thing to do.
-- Melody Beattie

#Powerful #Simple #Choices

Remember to be kind. Remember to be loving. Remember to feel all your feelings and to take care of yourself. But most of all, remember to be happy.
-- Melody Beattie

#Feelings #Be Kind #Care

I trust so much in the power of the heart and the soul; I know that the answer to what we need to do next is in our own hearts. All we have to do is listen, then take that one step further and trust what we hear. We will be taught what we need to learn.
-- Melody Beattie

#Heart #Soul #Answers

Let go of your expectations. The universe will do what it will. Sometimes your dreams will come true. Sometimes they won't. Sometimes when you let go of a broken dream, another one gently takes its place. Be aware of what is, not what you would like to be, taking place.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Dream #Expectations

The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.
-- Melody Beattie

#Compassion #Ideas #People

other people maay be there to help us, teach us, guide us aolng our path, But the lesson to be learned is always ours
-- Melody Beattie

#Learning #People #Lessons

there are no knights on white horses, no magical grandmothers in the sky watching, waiting to rescue us. Teachers may come our way, but they will not rescue. They will teach. People who care will come, but they will not rescue. They will care. Help will come, but help is not rescuing. We are our own rescuers. Our relationships will improve dramatically when we stop rescuing others and stop expecting them to rescue us.
-- Melody Beattie

#Teacher #Horse #Responsibility

Are you balanced? Do you share your time, your energy, your life, as much with yourself as you do with those around you?. . . . Know your limits. You are one of the most important people you need to look after and love. Balance your time, your energy, your life with those around you. You'll be able to give more freely and joyfully as a result, and you'll be more open to the gifts of the universe. It's not wrong to give to others. But it's okay to say yes to ourselves, too.
-- Melody Beattie

#People #Giving #Balance

I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for my future. I will focus on what’s happening now instead of what’s going to happen tomorrow.
-- Melody Beattie

#Focus #Today #Tomorrow

I know when to say no and when to say yes. I take responsibility for my choices. The victim? She went somewhere else. The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more. But I need to continue to remember the key principles: boundaries, letting go, forgiveness after feeling my feelings—not before, self-expression, loving others but loving myself, too.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Responsibility #Keys

Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living life in the year to come.
-- Melody Beattie

#New Year #Live Life #Years

Love means each person is free to follow his or her own heart.
-- Melody Beattie

#Heart #Mean #Love Means

I never know what the next lesson is going to be, because we're not supposed to know -- we're supposed to trust ourselves to discover it.
-- Melody Beattie

#Lessons #Next

Gratitude turns what we have into enough.
-- Melody Beattie

#Gratitude #Enough #Turns

God, help me remember that when I admit and accept the truth, I'll be given the power and guidance to change.
-- Melody Beattie

#Helping #Remember #God Help Me

Today I will focus on a peaceful pace, rather than a harried one. I will keep moving forward gently, not frantically. I will let go of my need to be anxious and upset and will replace these feelings with calmness and harmony.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Moving #Focus

The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people's business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs.
-- Melody Beattie

#Inspirational #Crazy #People

Gratitude can turn a meal into a feast.
-- Melody Beattie

#Gratitude #Meals #Turns

Today I will honor, cherish, and love myself. When I get confused about what to do, I just have to remember that I need to be true to myself. I will break free of the hold that others-and their expectations-ha ve on me.
-- Melody Beattie

#Confused #Expectations #Honor

We can stop picking on ourselves for picking on ourselvesWe can cherish ourselves and our lives. We can nuture ourselves and love ourselves. We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else. It's the best thing we've got going for us. It's who we are, and who we were meant to be. And it's not a mistake. We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier.
-- Melody Beattie

#Strong #Mistake #Believe

Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Stress #Hands

Beliefs create reality
-- Melody Beattie

#Inspirational #Reality #Belief

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.
-- Melody Beattie

#Behavior #Obsessed #Codependent

Accept yourself. Love yourself just as you are. Your finest work, your best moments, your joy, peace, and healing come when you love yourself. You give a great gift to the world when you do that. You give others permission to do the same: to love themselves. Revel in self love. Roll in it. Bask in it, as you would the sunshine.
-- Melody Beattie

#Appreciation #Love You #Healing

Live your life fom your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people's souls.
-- Melody Beattie

#Life #Wisdom #Heart

Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.
-- Melody Beattie

#Pain #Problem #Behavior

Going home means getting comfortable being who you are and who your soul really wants to be. There is no strain with that. The strain and tension come when we're not being who our soul wants to be and we're someplace where our soul doesn't feel at home.
-- Melody Beattie

#Sadness #Mean #Home

God, help me let go of my need to be afraid. I welcome peace, trust, acceptance, and safety into my life. I will make a point of listening to my healthy, rational fears, and will relinquish all the others.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Acceptance #Safety

Quit hanging on to the handrails . . . Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Live Life #Hanging On

Today I will surrender to discipline. I realize that sometimes it takes time to see the fruits of my labors, yet I still need to practice discipline. Help me to remember, God, that I'm moving forward, and that I'm learning the very important art of discipline.
-- Melody Beattie

#Art #Moving #Practice

Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don't.
-- Melody Beattie

#Thinking #Moments #Moments In Time

Today I will realize that I'm powerless over other people's expectations of me. I'll think about what I want and consider that how I respond to others' needs will affect the course of my life. I will own my own power and choose the course that's right for me.
-- Melody Beattie

#Thinking #Expectations #People

Today I will practice healthy giving, understanding that caretaking and compulsive giving don't work. I choose what I want to give, to whom, when, and how much. It takes time to learn how to give in healthy ways. It takes time to learn to receive. Balance will come.
-- Melody Beattie

#Practice #Giving #Healthy

Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable...
-- Melody Beattie

#Scared #Vulnerable #Weak

No - simple to pronounce, hard to say.
-- Melody Beattie

#Simple

Sometimes compromise is important. Sometimes it's better to give in to someone else's wishes in order to have fun as a group or as a couple, or for the benefit of the team. Sometimes compromise is dangerous. We need to guard against compromising our standards to gain the approval or love of someone else. Decide when you can, and when you cannot, compromise. If it's not harmful and you are ambivalent about a decision, then compromise. If it could lead to breaking your values, compromise isn't a good idea.
-- Melody Beattie

#Couple #Fun #Team

When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is coming, the very best life and love have to offer, the best God and His universe have to send. Then open your hands to receive it. It's yours.
-- Melody Beattie

#Life And Love #Simple #Hands

We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths.
-- Melody Beattie

#Mind #Needs #Blame

We call it keeping up with the Joneses. They buy a boat and we buy a bigger one. They get a new TV and we get a big screen. They start a business and we start planning our articles of incorporation and the first stock release. And while we're so busy keeping up, we ignore our soul, the inner voice, that's telling us that it really wants to teach children to read. While it helps to identify with each other, we're not the same. So why compare ourselves on the basis of material things? Are you walking a path with heart in your own life, regardless of what others have?
-- Melody Beattie

#Children #Heart #Voice

We need to build downtime into our lives, so that we can have solitude without feeling overcome with guilt.
-- Melody Beattie

#Solitude #Feelings #Guilt

There is honor in all work, in all tasks, but take it one step further. Make what you do a labor of love. Then your work will truly touch and change the world in the way you desire. The work you do, whatever your chosen field, will be work that heals.
-- Melody Beattie

#Honor #Desire #World

Anger is a warning signal. It points to problems.
-- Melody Beattie

#Anger #Warning #Problem

This moment, we are right where we need to be, right where we are meant to be.
-- Melody Beattie

#Peace #Acceptance #Needs

I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.
-- Melody Beattie

#Hurt #People #Saws

Prayer changes things. Prayer changes us. Prayer changes life. Sometimes an event has been manifested that needs to be stopped, midair. Don't pray just when you're in trouble. Pray every day. Surround yourself with prayer. You never know when you might need an extra miracle.
-- Melody Beattie

#Prayer #Life Changing #Miracle

When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves.
-- Melody Beattie

#Want #Needs #Wants And Needs

Arranging for and allowing ourselves to have fun is an important part of taking care of ourselves. It helps us stay healthy. It helps us work better. It balances life. We deserve to have fun. Fun is a normal part of being alive. Fun is taking time to celebrate being alive.
-- Melody Beattie

#Fun #Healthy #Important

We need to set goals for ourselves. Start today...if you don't have any goals, make your first goal getting some goals. You probably won't start living happily ever after, but you may start living happily, purposefully, and with gratitude...Goals are gratitude in action. They give us the opportunity to build on what we already have. While achieving goals can be a lengthy process, we can learn to be grateful for each stage in the process of setting and meeting goals.
-- Melody Beattie

#Happiness #Gratitude #Grateful

God loves me enough to let me go through all the lessons I came here to learn, even the ones that hurt the most. His presence doesn't deny me. It's always there to help me see and understand what I came to this planet to learn.
-- Melody Beattie

#Hurt #Sadness #Lessons

Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment
-- Melody Beattie

#Acceptance #Forever #Magic

Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We’ll set a limit when we’re ready, and not a moment before. So will others. There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed.
-- Melody Beattie

#Letting Go #Mean #Thinking