David Foster Wallace famous quotes

If your fidelity to perfectionism is too high, you never do anything.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Perfectionism #Fidelity

We live today in a world where most of the really important developments in everything from math and physics and astronomy to public policy and psychology and classical music are so extremely abstract and technically complex and context-dependent that it's next to impossible for the ordinary citizen to feel that they (the developments) have much relevance to her actual life.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Math #Psychology #Important

You don't have to think very hard to realize that our dread of both relationships and loneliness ... has to do with angst about death, the recognition that I'm going to die, and die very much alone, and the rest of the world is going to go merrily on without me.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Loneliness #Writing #Thinking

I know I never work in whatever gets called an office, e.g., a school office I use only for meeting students and storing books I know I'm not going to read anytime soon.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Book #School #Office

I do things like get in a taxi and say, "The library, and step on it.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Inspirational #Book #Reading

If some people read my fiction and see it as fundamentally about philosophical ideas, what it probably means is that these are pieces where the characters are not as alive and interesting as I meant them to be.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Philosophical #Character #Mean

Are we not all of us fanatics? I say only what you of the U.S.A. pretend you do not know. Attachments are of great seriousness. Choose your attachments carefully. Choose your temple of fanaticism with great care. What you wish to sing of as tragic love is an attachment not carefully chosen. Die for one person? This is a craziness. Persons change, leave, die, become ill. They leave, lie, go mad, have sickness, betray you, die. Your nation outlives you. A cause outlives you.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Lying #Love Is #Attachment

I tend to think of fiction as being mainly about characters and human beings and inner experience, whereas essays can be much more expository and didactic and more about subjects or ideas.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Character #Thinking #Ideas

Everybody is identical in their secret unspoken belief that way deep down they are different from everyone else.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Bipolar #Secret #Way

I was trained mainly as a short story writer and that's how I started writing, but I've also become very interested in non-fiction, just because I got a couple of magazine jobs when I was really poor and needed the money and it turned out that non-fiction was much more interesting than I thought it was.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Jobs #Couple #Writing

In reality, there is no such thing as not voting: you either vote by voting, or you vote by staying home and tacitly doubling the value of some Diehard's vote.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Home #Reality #Voting

My personal belief is that because technology and economic logic has gotten so sophisticated, cruelties can be perpetrated now that would have been unimaginable two or three hundred years ago.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Technology #Years #Two

The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Inspirational #Graduation #Sacrifice

Many people in America throw the term "fascism" around, particularly for Middle-Eastern terrorists, but in fact what fascism really is is a close alliance between a unitary executive and a state and large corporations and a state.
-- David Foster Wallace

#America #People #Facts

How odd I can have all this inside me and to you it’s just words.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Odd

America, as everybody knows, is a country of many contradictions, and a big contradiction for a long time has been between a very aggressive form of capitalism and consumerism against what might be called a kind of moral or civic impulse.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Country #America #Long

I'd like to be the sort of person who can enjoy things at the time, instead of having to go back in my head and enjoy them.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Enjoy #Persons

Not having a passport makes me very blasé about what appears in foreign periodicals since I know I'll never see it.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Passports

Fiction becomes a weird way to countenance yourself and to tell the truth instead of being a way to escape yourself or present yourself in a way you figure you will be maximally likable.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Writing #Fiction #Way

I think the only thing for me, the tricky thing with the footnotes, is that they are an irritant, and they require a little extra work, and so they either have to be really germane or they have to be kind of fun to read.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Fun #Thinking #Littles

Whatever you get paid attention for is never what you think is most important about yourself.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Thinking #Important #Attention

The way I think about things and experience things is not particularly linear, and it's not orderly, and it's not pyramidical, and there are a lot of loops.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Thinking #Way #Linear

she committed suicide by putting her extremities down the garbage disposal-first one arm and then, kind of miraculously if you think about it, the other arm.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Suicide #Thinking #Firsts

I like the fans’ sound at night. Do you? It’s like somebody big far away goes like: it’sOKit’sOKit’sOKit’sOK, over and over. From very far away.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Night #Sound #Fans

In the day-to-day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshipping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Choices #Atheism #Adults

Mario, what do you get when you cross an insomniac, an unwilling agnostic and a dyslexic?" "I give." "You get someone who stays up all night torturing himself mentally over the question of whether or not there's a dog.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Dog #Night #Giving

That everything is on fire, slow fire, and we're all less than a million breaths away from an oblivion more total than we can even bring ourselves to even try to imagine...
-- David Foster Wallace

#Fire #Trying #Imagine

What the really great artists do is they're entirely themselves. They're entirely themselves, they've got their own vision, they have their own way of fracturing reality, and if it's authentic and true, you will feel it in your nerve endings.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Artist #Reality #Vision

If you spend enough time reading or writing, you find a voice, but you also find certain tastes. You find certain writers who when they write, it makes your own brain voice like a tuning fork, and you just resonate with them. And when that happens, reading those writers ... becomes a source of unbelievable joy. It’s like eating candy for the soul. And I sometimes have a hard time understanding how people who don’t have that in their lives make it through the day.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Reading #Writing #Hard Times

It did what all ads are supposed to do: create an anxiety relievable by purchase.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Anxiety #Marketing #Advertising

Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Choices #Worship

You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Life #Thinking #People

Almost anything that you pay close, direct attention to becomes interesting.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Wise #Interesting #Attention

What goes on inside is just too fast and huge and all interconnected for words to do more than barely sketch the outlines of at most one tiny little part of it at any given instant.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Goes On #Littles #Tiny

... it takes great personal courage to let yourself appear weak.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Weak

The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Inspirational #Truth #Freedom

If you can think of times in your life that you’ve treated people with extraordinary decency and love, and pure uninterested concern, just because they were valuable as human beings. The ability to do that with ourselves. To treat ourselves the way we would treat a really good, precious friend. Or a tiny child of ours that we absolutely loved more than life itself. And I think it’s probably possible to achieve that. I think part of the job we’re here for is to learn how to do it
-- David Foster Wallace

#Jobs #Children #Thinking

That sometimes human beings have to just sit in one place and, like, hurt. That you will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do. That there is such a thing as raw, unalloyed, agendaless kindness. That it is possible to fall asleep during an anxiety attack. That concentrating on anything is very hard work.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Hurt #Kindness #Fall

There are very few innocent sentences in writing.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Writing #Innocent #Sentences

...the most obvious, ubiquitous, important realities are often the ones that are hardest to see and talk about.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Reality #Important #Obvious

Lonely people tend, rather, to be lonely because they decline to bear the psychic costs of being around other humans. They are allergic to people. People affect them too strongly.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Lonely #Loneliness #Psychics

Real leaders are people who “help us overcome the limitations of our own individual laziness and selfishness and weakness and fear and get us to do better, harder things than we can get ourselves to do on our own.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Real #People #Leader

God seems to have a kind of laid-back management style I’m not crazy about.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Crazy #Style #Laid Back

It's weird to feel like you miss someone you're not even sure you know.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Missing Someone #Missing #Like You

It is tragic and sad and chaotic and lovely. All life is the same, as citizens of the human State: the animating limits are within, to be killed and mourned, over and over again.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Lovely #Citizens #Limits

It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Mean #Attention #Pay

Everything I’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Inspirational #Letting Go #Mark

Every love story is a ghost story.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Ghost Stories #Stories #Ghost

Acceptance is usually more a matter of fatigue than anything else.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Acceptance #Matter #Fatigue

Everything takes time. Bees have to move very fast to stay still.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Moving #Bees #Take Time

Hear this or not, as you will. Learn it now, or later -- the world has time. Routine, repetition, tedium, monotony, ephemeracy, inconsequence, abstraction, disorder, boredom, angst, ennui -- these are the true hero's enemies, and make no mistake, they are fearsome indeed. For they are real.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Real #Mistake #Hero

The parts of me that used to think I was different or smarter or whatever, almost made me die.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Thinking #Different #Used

We're all lonely for something we don't know we're lonely for. How else to explain the curious feeling that goes around feeling like missing somebody we've never even met?
-- David Foster Wallace

#Lonely #Loneliness #Being Alone

Look, man, we'd probably most of us agree that these are dark times, and stupid ones, but do we need fiction that does nothing but dramatize how dark and stupid everything is?
-- David Foster Wallace

#Stupid #Dark #Men

Most really pretty girls have pretty ugly feet, and so does Mindy Metalman, Lenore notices, all of a sudden.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Girl #Feet #Doe

I submit that tennis is the most beautiful sport there is and also the most demanding. It requires body control, hand-eye coordination, quickness, flat-out speed, endurance, and that weird mix of caution and abandon we call courage. It also requires smarts. Just one single shot in one exchange in one point of a high-level match is a nightmare of mechanical variables.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Beautiful #Sports #Smart

An ad that pretends to be art is -- at absolute best -- like somebody who smiles warmly at you only because he wants something from you. This is dishonest, but what's sinister is the cumulative effect that such dishonesty has on us: since it offers a perfect facsimile or simulacrum of goodwill without goodwill's real spirit, it messes with our heads and eventually starts upping our defenses even in cases of genuine smiles and real art and true goodwill. It makes us feel confused and lonely and impotent and angry and scared. It causes despair.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Lonely #Art #Confused

There's a grosser irony about Politically Correct English. This is that PCE purports to be the dialect of progressive reform but is in fact - in its Orwellian substitution of the euphemisms of social equality for social equality itself - of vastly more help to conservatives and the US status quo than traditional SNOOT prescriptions ever were.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Reform #Dialect #Facts

Most of the writers I know are weird hybrids. There's a strong streak of egomania coupled with extreme shyness. Writing's kind of like exhibitionism in private. And there's also a strange loneliness, and a desire to have some kind of conversation with people, but not a real great ability to do it in person.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Strong #Real #Loneliness

What passes for hip cynical transcendence of sentiment is really some kind of fear of being really human, since to be really human [...] is probably to be unavoidably sentimental and naïve and goo-prone and generally pathetic.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Cynical #Hips #Sentimental

Learning how to think" really means learning how to exercise some control over how and what you think. It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience. Because if you cannot or will not exercise this kind of choice in adult life, you will be totally hosed.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Mean #Exercise #Thinking

This story ["The Depressed Person"] was the most painful thing I ever wrote. It's about narcissism, which is a part of depression. The character has traits of myself. I really lost friends while writing on that story, I became ugly and unhappy and just yelled at people. The cruel thing with depression is that it's such a self-centered illness - Dostoevsky shows that pretty good in his "Notes from Underground". The depression is painful, you're sapped/consumed by yourself; the worse the depression, the more you just think about yourself and the stranger and repellent you appear to others.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Character #Writing #Thinking

Am I a good person? Deep down, do I even really want to be a good person, or do I only want to seem like a good person so that people (including myself) will approve of me? Is there a difference? How do I ever actually know whether I'm bullshitting myself, morally speaking?
-- David Foster Wallace

#Life #Differences #People

To be, in a word, unborable.... It is the key to modern life. If you are immune to boredom, there is literally nothing you cannot accomplish
-- David Foster Wallace

#Keys #Boredom #Modern Life

When they were introduced, he made a witticism, hoping to be liked. She laughed extremely hard, hoping to be liked. Then each drove home alone, staring straight ahead, with the very same twist to their faces. The man who'd introduced them didn't much like either of them, though he acted as if he did, anxious as he was to preserve good relations at all times. One never knew, after all, now did one now did one now did one.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Home #Men #Twists

...Genuine pathological openness is about as seductive as Tourette's Syndrome.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Seductive #Syndromes #Tourettes

...logical validity is not a guarantee of truth.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Guarantees #Logical #Persons

If you're automatically sure that you know what reality is and who and what is really important-if you want to operate on your default-setting-then you, like me, will not consider possibilities that aren't pointless and annoying.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Reality #Important #Want

I don't think writers are any smarter than other people. I think they may be more compelling in their stupidity, or in their confusion.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Thinking #People #Confusion

I'll say God seems to have a kind of laid-back management style I'm not crazy about. I'm pretty much anti-death. God looks by all accounts to be pro-death. I'm not seeing how we can get together on this issue, he and I...
-- David Foster Wallace

#Crazy #Issues #Style

We all suffer alone in the real world. True empathy's impossible. But if a piece of fiction can alow us imaginatively to identify with a character's pain, we might then also more easily conceive of others identifying with their own. This is nourishing, redemptive; we become less alone inside. It might just be that simple.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Pain #Real #Character

I wish you way more than luck.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Luck #Wish #Way

Fiction, poetry, music...these are the places (for me) where loneliness is countenanced, stared down, transfigured, treated.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Loneliness #Fiction #Treated

But if you've really learned how to think, how to pay attention...it will actually be within your power to experience a crowded, loud, slow, consumer-hell-type situation as not only meaningful but sacred, on fire with the same force that lit the stars-compassion, love, the sub-surface unity of all things.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Meaningful #Stars #Thinking

Mary had a little lamb, its fleece electrostatic / And everywhere Mary went, the lights became erratic.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Light #Erratic #Lambs

The capital-T Truth is about life BEFORE death. It is about the real value of a real education, which has almost nothing to do with knowledge, and everything to do with simple awareness; awareness of what is so real and essential, so hidden in plain sight all around us, all the time, that we have to keep reminding ourselves over and over: "This is water." "This is water." It is unimaginably hard to do this, to stay conscious and alive in the adult world day in and day out.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Real #Simple #Sight

Almost nothing important that ever happens to you happens because you engineer it.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Important

Bliss—a-second-by-second joy and gratitude at the gift of being alive, conscious—lies on the other side of crushing, crushing boredom. Pay close attention to the most tedious thing you can find (Tax Returns, Televised Golf) and, in waves, a boredom like you’ve never known will wash over you and just about kill you. Ride these out, and it’s like stepping from black and white into color. Like water after days in the desert. Instant bliss in every atom.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Crush #Gratitude #Lying

Good literature makes your head throb heartlike
-- David Foster Wallace

#Literature

I had kind of a midlife crisis at twenty which probably doesn’t augur well for my longevity
-- David Foster Wallace

#Twenties #Midlife #Kind

Try to learn to let what is unfair teach you.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Inspirational #Trying #Unfair

I never, even for a moment, doubted what they’d told me. This is why it is that adults and even parents can, unwittingly, be cruel: they cannot imagine doubt’s complete absence. They have forgotten.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Parent #Doubt #Adults

I'd tell you all you want and more, if the sounds I made could be what you hear
-- David Foster Wallace

#Sound #Want #Made

People, unless they're paying attention, tend to confuse fanciness with intelligence or authority.
-- David Foster Wallace

#People #Attention #Pay Attention

No wonder we cannot appreciate the really central Kafka joke: that the horrific struggle to establish a human self results in a self whose humanity is inseparable from the horrific struggle. That our endless and impossible journey toward home is in fact our home.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Struggle #Home #Journey

To experience commitment as the loss of options, a type of death, the death of childhood's limitless possibility, of the flattery of choice without duress-this will happen, mark me. Childhood's end.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Commitment #Loss #Choices

The key is the ability, whether innate or conditioned, to find the other side of the rote, the picayune, the meaningless, the repetitive, the pointlessly complex. To be, in a word, unborable... It is the key to modern life. If you are immune to boredom, there is literally nothing you cannot accomplish.
-- David Foster Wallace

#Keys #Boredom #Modern Life

My own terror of appearing sentimental is so strong that I’ve decided to fight against it, some; but the terror is still there. . . . Do you identify with a distaste/fear about sentimentality? Do you agree that, past a certain line, such distaste can turn everything arch and sneering and too ironic? Or do you have your own set of abstract questions to drive yourself nuts with?
-- David Foster Wallace

#Strong #Fighting #Past