Elizabeth Berg famous quotes

You feel the call. That's the important thing. Now answer it as fully as you can. Take the risk to let all that is in you, out. Escape into the open.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Writing #Risk #Important

Don't let your habits become handcuffs
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Habit #Handcuffs

You are born into your family and your family is born into you. No returns. No exchanges.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Inspirational #Family #Return

There is incredible value in being of service to others. I think if many of the people in therapy offices were dragged out to put their finger in a dike, take up their place in a working line, they would be relieved of terrible burdens.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Thinking #People #Office

There are random moments - tossing a salad, coming up the driveway to the house, ironing the seams flat on a quilt square, standing at the kitchen window and looking out at the delphiniums, hearing a burst of laughter from one of my children's rooms - when I feel a wavelike rush of joy. This is my true religion: arbitrary moments of of nearly painful happiness for a life I feel privileged to lead.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Happiness #Quilts #Laughter

You are always in my thoughts. When you were little, I knew your whereabouts at any given moment. Now that you are...off on your own, I still always know where you are, because I keep you in my heart.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Heart #Littles #Moments

People say you should give until it hurts. I say you should give until it stops hurting. Know what I mean?
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Hurt #Mean #People

There is incredible value in being of service to others.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Incredibles #Service To Others #Values

The seasons tell us, everything in organic life tells us, that there is no holding on; still, we try to do just that. Sometimes, though, we learn the kind of wisdom that celebrates the open hand.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Hands #Trying #Kind

She sits down and puts her hand to her chest and rocks. Thinks of all she has lost and will lose. All she has had and will have. It seems to her that life is like gathering berries into an apron with a hole. Why do we keep on? Because the berries are beautiful, and we must eat to survive. We catch what we can. We walk past what we lose for the promise of more, just ahead.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Beautiful #Past #Thinking

I cried until my eyes swelled shut, and then I slept, a black, dreamless sleep from which I awoke amazingly refreshed, at least until I remembered.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Sleep #Eye #Loss

Sometimes serendipity is just intention unmasked.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Serendipity #Sometimes #Intention

There is love in holding and there is love in letting go.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Long Distance Relationship #Letting Go

I hoped we never had to realize all the opportunities we missed in this life.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Opportunity #Realizing #This Life

Now, on this road trip, my mind seemed to uncrinkle, to breathe, to present to itself a cure for a disease it had not, until now, known it had.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Mind #Disease #Road Trip

I wondered what my father had looked like that day, how he had felt, marrying the lively and beautiful girl who was my mother. I wondered what his life was like now. Did he ever think of us? I wanted to hate him, but I couldn't; I didn't know him well enough. Instead, I wondered about him occasionally, with a confused kind of longing. There was a place inside me carved out for him; I didn't want it to be there, but it was. Once, at the hardware store, Brooks had shown me how to use a drill. I'd made a tiny hole that went deep. The place for my father was like that.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Beautiful #Girl #Mother

I hadn't realized how much I'd been needing to meet someone I might be able to say everything to.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Might #Able

I made cranberry sauce, and when it was done put it into a dark blue bowl for the beautiful contrast. I was thinking, doing this, about the old ways of gratitude: Indians thanking the deer they'd slain, grace before supper, kneeling before bed. I was thinking that gratitude is too much absent in our lives now, and we need it back, even if it only takes the form of acknowledging the blue of a bowl against the red of cranberries.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Beautiful #Gratitude #Dark

It is never about how good your voice is; it is only about feeling the urge to sing, and then having the courage to do it with the voice you are given.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Voice #Feelings #Given

But it seemed to me that this was the way we all lived: full to the brim with gratitude and joy one day, wrecked on the rocks the next. Finding the balance between the two was the art and the salvation.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Gratitude #Art #Rocks

books are like confort food without the calories
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Book #Calories

You must never check for a person's pulse using your thumb, or you'll feel your own heartbeat. Actually, I plan on doing that if I'm the one who's here when Ruth dies. I plan on giving her my heartbeat before I let her go.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Giving #Thumbs #Ruth

Abstracts are real and time is a lie, it cannot be measured when one moment can expand to hold everything.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Real #Lying #Moments

This is one rule about mixing boys and girls: that a date always comes first.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Girl #Boys #Dating

I will come back as a little breeze. You will feel me on your face, and you will know that I am still listening. So you can still talk to me.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Life #Listening #Littles

I thought of the priest who'd told me that many religions hold that it is easier to be closely connected to people we love after death than before.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#People #Easier #Priests

Sometimes you know before you know.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Sometimes

Well, anyway, her death changed our lives for the better, because it brought a kind of awareness, a specific sense of purpose and appreciation we hadn't had before. Would I trade that in order to have her back? In a fraction of a millisecond. But I won't ever have her back. So I have taken this, as her great gift to us. But. Do I block her out? Never. Do I think of her? Always. In some part of my brain, I think of her every single moment of every single day.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Appreciation #Block #Taken

Anything we have, we are only borrowing. Anything. Any time.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Borrowing

I would make an anonymous call and say, this is someone who cares, do you know what kind of children you have?
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Children #Who Cares #Care

*We give so little when it's in us always to give so much more. It's bothering to listen with an open heart to someone who smells bad. It's hard.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Heart #Smell #Giving

When it's new and important, you have to rest in between times. And anyway, even when I like a person there is a weariness that comes. I can be with someone and everything is fine and then all of a sudden it can wash over me like a sickness, that I need the quiet of my own self. I need to unload my head and look at what I've got in there so far. See it. Think what it means. I always need to come back to being alone for a while.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Mean #Thinking #Self

I remove my wedding rings and put them in the jewelry box. So many others have done this. I am not the only one. I am not the only one. But here, I am the only one.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Done #Jewelry Boxes #Wedding Ring

If I were to draw on a paper what gym does for me, I would make one dot and then I would erase it.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Inspirational #Teenager #Doe

I don't think men try to make women be like them, but I think women try to make men be like them, a lot.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Men #Thinking #Trying

As a writer, you should have a sticky soul; the act of continually taking things in should be as much a part of you as your hair color.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Hair #Color #Soul

Reading Claire Cooks novel is like eating some exotic dish about which you say, Wow, this is great! Whats in it? The ingredients here are: intelligence, humor, poignancy, revelation and, perhaps best of all, true originality. Ready to Fall seems to me to be ready to soar.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Fall #Reading #Exotic

My mind was in my heart, anchored like a bright kite in a safe place.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Heart #Mind #Kites

Ruth has friends like other people have wardrobes. I mean that there's someone for every occasion.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Friends #Mean #People

It feels like some part of me that was curled down and waiting in the dark has risen, and now stands stretching and strong in the sunshine. I knew it.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Strong #Sunshine #Dark

It seems like people are all the time making themselves themselves, but they don't really know it. You can only have true vision when you look behind. A person can slide so fast into being something they never really intended. I wonder if you can truly resurrect your own self.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Self #People #Vision

He wore a white shirt with the sleeves rolled up to the good place, and a heart-shaped leaf lay trapped in the hollow if his throat as though it were planned, though of course it was so perfect it couldn't have been planned.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Heart #White #Perfect

Sometimes I try to remember things my mother told me about the awful way he was raised. But why does he have to keep on going? Why would you take something bad out of your mouth and hand it to another, saying, Here, eat this?
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Mother #Father #Hands

The heart of myself has always been something just wanting so bad. I have had an empty center, black as a basement, but also knowing about light and waiting. Young as I am, I know now that everything is about to come. Jimmy will be the place for me to learn the real happiness. He will be my Joy School. My joy. Mine.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Happiness #Real #Heart

I think one of the reasons we have children is to believe everything all over again. And I'm not talking Santa, here, either.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Children #Believe #Thinking

I hate banana bread. It's too suspicious-looking. I always thought the cooked banana looked like insect legs.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Hate #Legs #Bread

I believe that the souls of women flatten and anchor themselves in times of adversity, lay in for the stay. I've heard that when elephants are attacked they often run, not away, but toward each other. Perhaps it is because they are a matriarchal society.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Running #Believe #Adversity

I believe that the souls of women flatten and anchor themselves in times of adversity, lay in for the stay.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Believe #Adversity #Anchors

The truth is, we usually only show our unhappiness to another woman. I suppose this is one of our problems. And yet it is also one of our strengths.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Problem #Truth Is #Unhappiness

...in my head, a person who was out walking and walking in the dark comes to a little house with a light on. Waits at the door for a moment, and then goes in finds such a welcome that she stays.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Dark #Light #Doors

One thing I have always been is too short. It's adorable when you're in junior high. After that, it's a pain in the ***** for the rest of your life.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Pain #Adorable #Juniors

The truth is, aging can be your realest opportunity to decide how best to live - and the best incentive for getting you to do just that.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Opportunity #Incentives #Aging

We are assumed to be rather hopeless - swallowed up by incorrect notions, divorced from the original genius with which we are born, lost within days of living this distracting life.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Genius #Hopeless #Lost

As far as I'm concerned, the most important thing you need when inventing characters is empathy.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Character #Empathy #Important

There are people who have never studied writing who are capable of being writers. I know this because I am an example. I was a part-time registered nurse, a wife, and a mother when I began publishing. I'd taken no classes, had no experience, no knowledge of the publishing world, no agent, no contacts ... Take the risk to let all that is in you, out. Escape into the open.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Mother #Taken #Writing

Just one look and then I knew that all I longed for long ago was you
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Long #Looks

There are some things you never say good-bye to
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Bye #Good Bye #Saying Good Bye

I turn off the radio, listen to the quiet. Which has its own, rich sound. Which I knew, but had forgotten. And it is good to remember.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Sound #Radio #Remember

In the classics section, she had picked up a copy of The Magic Mountain and recalled the summer between her junior and senior years of high school, when she read it, how she lay in bed hours after she should have gotten up, the sheet growing warmer against her skin as the sun rose higher in the sky, her mother poking her head in now and then to see if she'd gotten up yet, but never suggesting that she should: Eleanor didn't have many rules about child rearing, but one of them was this: Never interrupt reading.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Senior #Summer #Mother

It's amazing how smart the body is. Though maybe we could do without loving. I think it's overrated, and I think it's too hard. You should only love your children; that is necessary, because otherwise you might kill them. But to love a man? It's overrated, and it's too hard and I will never, ever do it again.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Children #Smart #Men

I felt myself trapped in line for a ride I was not nearly ready for, looking back but moving forward in the only direction I could go.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Moving #Lines #Ready

The things that brought me the most comfort now were too small to list. Raspberries in cream. Sparrows with cocked heads. Shadows of bare limbs making for sidewalk filigrees. Roses past their prime with their petals loose about them. The shouts of children at play in the neighborhood, Ginger Rogers on the black-and-white screen.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Children #Black And White #Past

Oh just wait. It takes a lot of time, that's all...You'll have come to a certain kind of appreciation that moves beyond all the definitions of love you've ever had. A certain richness happens only later in life. I guess its' a kind of mellowing. p 80 talking about marriage and husbands
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Appreciation #Husband #Moving

Well, most women are full to the brim, that's all...We are, most of us, ready to explode, especially when our children are small and we are so weary with the demands for love and attention and the kind of service that makes you feel you should be wearing a uniform with "Mommy" embroidered over the left breast, over the heart...If a stranger had come up to me and said, "Do you want to talk about it? I have time to listen," I think I might have burst into tears at the relief of it.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Children #Heart #Thinking

For all it's problems and difficulties, life is mostly a wonderful experience, and it is up to each person to make the most of each day. I hope you are successful in your life, but look to the heavens and the earth and especially to other people to find your real wealth. Wherever I am, wherever you go, know that my love goes with you.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Real #Successful #People

Make time for prayer and reflection; try to understand your value as a man on earth but see, too, your proper place in the scheme of things. It may sound funny to say this, but I have come to see that we are all far more important and less important than we think.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Prayer #Reflection #Men

But in spite of my great desire for intimacy, I've always been a loner. Perhaps when the longing for connection is as strong as it is in me, when the desire is for something so deep and true, one knows better than to try. One sees that this is not the place for that.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Strong #Desire #Trying

Do you think that people ever really do believe they will die, that the world will just go along as always without them? I wonder if we aren't all a little surprised at the moment of crossover, if we don't look back over our shoulders saying, Now hold on.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Believe #Thinking #People

Never be afraid of doing the thing you know in your heart is right, even if others don't agree.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Heart #World War Ii #Agree

I like to listen to sad music when I’m sad. It seems honest. It makes me cry, and sometimes a good cry is the only thing that can make you feel better.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Feel Better #Honest #Sometimes

You don't get everything all at once. You wait.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Waiting

No one wants to mother more vigilantly than a woman who is childless and wishes she wasn’t.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Mother #Wish #Want

It will happen when you're not looking for it. Love likes to take you by surprise.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Likes #Surprise

It is such a terrifying thing to see a man cry.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Men #Cry

I have wanted you to see out of my eyes so many times.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Eye #Wanted

Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Loss #Weight Loss #Taste

Remember me in your dreams, as I will you.
-- Elizabeth Berg

#Dream #Remember