Virginia Satir famous quotes

We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.
-- Virginia Satir

#Life #Being Yourself #Positive Thinking

We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.
-- Virginia Satir

#Love #Inspirational #Marriage

I have talked about choosing rather than acting from compulsion. When you feel that you have to live according to someone else's direction or live so that you never disappoint or hurt anybody, then your life is a continual assessment of whether or not you please other people.
-- Virginia Satir

#Hurt #Assessment #People

Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.
-- Virginia Satir

#Communication

I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you. I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now.
-- Virginia Satir

#Inspire #Want #Excited

What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
-- Virginia Satir

#Parenting #Past #Parenthood

Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.
-- Virginia Satir

#Children #Self Worth #Expression

We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.
-- Virginia Satir

#Believe #Learning #Something New

It's sad that children cannot know their parents when they were younger; when they were loving, courting, and being nice to one another. By the time children are old enough to observe, the romance has all too often faded or gone underground.
-- Virginia Satir

#Children #Nice #Parenting

Life is not what it's supposed to be. It's what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.
-- Virginia Satir

#Inspirational #Life #Break Up

As a therapist, I am a companion. I try to help people tune into their own wisdom.
-- Virginia Satir

#People #Trying #Tunes

The Problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper.
-- Virginia Satir

#Problem #Symptoms #Deeper

Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.
-- Virginia Satir

#Problem #Coping

The symbol in Chinese for crisis is made up of two ideographs: one means danger, the other means opportunity. This symbol is a reminder that we can choose to turn a crisis into an opportunity or into a negative experience.
-- Virginia Satir

#Mean #Opportunity #Two

We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.
-- Virginia Satir

#Essence #Miracle #Needs

It is now clear to me that the family is a microcosm of the world. To understand the world, we can study the family: issues such as power, intimacy, autonomy, trust, and communication skills are vital parts underlying how we live in the world. To change the world is to change the family.
-- Virginia Satir

#Communication #Skills #Issues

Our biggest problem as human beings is not knowing that we don't know.
-- Virginia Satir

#Knowing #Not Knowing #Problem

Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.
-- Virginia Satir

#Beautiful #Spiritual #Inspirational Life

I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.
-- Virginia Satir

#Believe #I Believe #Heard

I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.
-- Virginia Satir

#Love You #Appreciate #Judging

The message sent is not always the message received.
-- Virginia Satir

#Messages

I am me and I am okay.
-- Virginia Satir

#Recovery #Okay

Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.
-- Virginia Satir

#Inspirational #Teenage #People

Many people are living in an emotional jail without realizing it.
-- Virginia Satir

#Emotional #Jail #People

Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.
-- Virginia Satir

#Important #Events #Response

I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
-- Virginia Satir

#Appreciate #Judging #Judgement

The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
-- Virginia Satir

#Eight #Growth #Survival

Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.
-- Virginia Satir

#Motivational #Family #Appreciation

Why Family Therapy...because it deals with family pain.
-- Virginia Satir

#Pain #Deals #Therapy

So much is asked of parents, and so little is given.
-- Virginia Satir

#Parent #Littles #Given

Once a human being has arrived on this earth, communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships he makes with others and what happens to him in the world about him.
-- Virginia Satir

#Communication #World #Earth

Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.
-- Virginia Satir

#Simple #Training #Together

We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences.
-- Virginia Satir

#Differences #Together #Grows

There are five freedoms: The freedom to see and hear what is; The freedom to say what you feel and think; The freedom to feel what you actually feel; The freedom to ask for what you want; The freedom to take risks on your own behalf.
-- Virginia Satir

#Freedom #Thinking #Risk

Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy. . . . I have often said to parents, "If it isn't illegal, immoral, orfattening, give it your blessing." We do much better . . . if we find and support all the places we can appropriately say yes, and say only the no's that really matter.
-- Virginia Satir

#Blessing #Giving #Support

I regard (parenting) as the hardest, most complicated, anxiety-ridden, sweat-and-blood-producing job in the world. Succeeding requires the ultimate in patience, common sense, commitment, humor, tact, love, wisdom, awareness, and knowledge. At the same time, it holds the possibility for the most rewarding, joyous experience of a lifetime, namely, that of being successful guides to a new and unique human being.
-- Virginia Satir

#Jobs #Commitment #Successful

Parents teach in the toughest school in the word: The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, theclassroom teacher, and the janitor, all rolled into two. . . . There are few schools to train you for your job, and there is no general agreement on the curriculum. . . . You are on duty, or at least on call, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, for at least 18 years for each child you have. Besides that, you have to contend with an administration that has two leaders or bosses, whichever the case may be.
-- Virginia Satir

#Teacher #Jobs #Children

Families and societies are small and large versions of one another. Both are made up of people who have to work together, whose destinies are tied up with one another. Each features the components of a relationship: leaders perform roles relative to the led, the young to the old, and male to female; and each is involved with the process of decision-making, use of authority, and the seeking of common goals.
-- Virginia Satir

#Destiny #Goal #People

In the nurturing family...parents see themselves as empowering leaders not as authoritative bosses. They see their job primarily as one of teaching their children how to be truly human in all situations. They readily acknowledge to the child their poor judgment as well as their good judgment; their hurt, anger, or disappointment as well as their joy. The behavior of these parents matches what they say.
-- Virginia Satir

#Hurt #Jobs #Disappointment

Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world. It resembles two business firms merging their respective resources to make a single product. All the potential headaches of that operation are present when an adult male and an adult female join to steer a child from infancy to adulthood.
-- Virginia Satir

#Jobs #Children #Two

People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty
-- Virginia Satir

#People #Misery #Certainty

Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor ...
-- Virginia Satir

#Teacher #School #People

Taste everything, but swallow only what fits.
-- Virginia Satir

#Balance #Taste #Fit

You have all played a significant part in my development of loving. As a result, my life has been rich and full, so I leave feeling very grateful.
-- Virginia Satir

#Grateful #Feelings #Development

I think if I have one message, one thing before I die that most of the world would know, it would be that the event does not determine how to respond to the event. That is a purely personal matter. The way in which we respond will direct and influence the event more than the event itself.
-- Virginia Satir

#Thinking #Would Be #World

No one's fingerprints are exactly the same as anyone else's.
-- Virginia Satir

#Unique #Fingerprints

I feel that adolescence has served its purpose when a person arrives at adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to relate intimately, to communicate congruently, to take responsibility, and to take risks. The end of adolescence is the beginning of adulthood. What hasn't been finished then will have to be finished later.
-- Virginia Satir

#Strong #Self Esteem #Responsibility

A growing body of clinical observation has pointed to the conclusion that the family therapy must be oriented to the family as a whole.
-- Virginia Satir

#Growing #Body #Observation

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.
-- Virginia Satir

#Okay

I know people can change-right down to my bones, through every cell, in every fiber of my body-I now that people can change. It is just a question of when and in what context.
-- Virginia Satir

#Change #Cells #People

You have learned what you have learned very well. It has helped you survive.
-- Virginia Satir

#Wells

Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy.
-- Virginia Satir

#Easy #Stage #Adolescence