Lisa See famous quotes

Having a baby is painful in order to show how serious a thing life is.
-- Lisa See

#Baby #Order #Serious

I am old enough to know only too well my good and bad qualities, which were often one in the same.
-- Lisa See

#Quality #Enough #Good And Bad

Read a thousand books, and your words will flow like a river.
-- Lisa See

#Book #Reading #Writing

He was in my hair, my eyes, my fingers, my heart. I day-dreamed about what he was doing, thinking, seeing, smelling, feeling. I could not eat for thoughts of him.
-- Lisa See

#Heart #Eye #Thinking

In our country we call this type of mother love teng ai. My son has told me that in men's writing it is composed of two characters. The first means pain; the second means love. That is a mother's love.
-- Lisa See

#Country #Mother #Pain

May and I are sisters. We'll always fight, but we'll always make up as well. That's what sisters do: we argue, we point out each other's frailties, mistakes, and bad judgment, we flash the insecurities we've had since childhood, and then we come back together. Until the next time.
-- Lisa See

#Sister #Mistake #Fighting

I've come to believe that part of lovesickness comes from this conflict between control and desire. In love we have no control. Our hearts and minds are tormented, teased, enticed and delighted by the overwhelming strength of emotions that make us try to forget the real world.
-- Lisa See

#Real #Believe #Heart

Anyone who says that women do not have influence in men's decisions makes a vast and stupid mistake.
-- Lisa See

#Mistake #Stupid #Men

Let those who believe, believe. Let those who doubt, doubt.
-- Lisa See

#Believe #Doubt

If it is perfectly acceptable for a widow to disfigure herself or commit suicide to save face for her husband's family, why should a mother not be moved to extreme action by the loss of a child or children? We are their caretakers. We love them. We nurse them when they are sick. . . But no woman should live longer than her children. It is against the law of nature. If she does, why wouldn't she wish to leap from a cliff, hang from a branch, or swallow lye?
-- Lisa See

#Mother #Suicide #Husband

When people are alive they love, when they die, they keep loving. If love ends when person dies, that is not real love
-- Lisa See

#Real #People #Alive

I’ve never thought much about whether I was happy or if I had fun as a child. I was a so-so girl who lived with a so-so family in a so-so village. I didn’t know that there might be another way to live, and I didn’t worry about it either.
-- Lisa See

#Girl #Children #Fun

Poetry is on earth to make you serene, not corrupt your mind, thoughts,or emotions
-- Lisa See

#Mind #Earth #Emotion

How can we not create a fantasy in our minds when the reality is so hard?
-- Lisa See

#Reality #Mind #Fantasy

In that moment I understood that the cruelest words in the universe are if only.
-- Lisa See

#Motivational #Regret #Moments

Parents die, daughters grow up and marry out, but sisters are for life.
-- Lisa See

#Daughter #Growing Up #Parent

What stays with me most is a general sense of loss, unease, and longing for the past that cannot be relieved.
-- Lisa See

#Loss #Past #Longing

I write a thousand words a day.
-- Lisa See

#Writing #Thousand

And often it would be a woman who was in her 70s or 80s who would win the beauty contest, because bound feet never age.
-- Lisa See

#Winning #Feet #Age

Mama used to tell us a story about a cicada sitting high in a tree. It chirps and drinks in dew, oblivious to the praying mantis behind it. The mantis arches up its front leg to stab the cicada, but it doesn't know an oriole perches behind it. The bird stretches out its neck to snap up the mantis for a midday meal, but its unaware of the boy who's come into the garden with a net. Three creatures—the cicada, the mantis and the oriole—all coveted gains without being aware of the greater and inescapable danger that was coming.
-- Lisa See

#Boys #Garden #Bird

While she is lovely, we need to remember that her face is not what distinguishes her. Her beauty is a reflection of the virtue and talent she keeps inside.
-- Lisa See

#Reflection #Lovely #Needs

I think to really be literate in nu shu you only need about 600 characters because it is phonetic. So you're able to then create many words out of one character.
-- Lisa See

#Character #Thinking #Needs

I don't really know anything about the movie business, even though I've lived in Los Angeles my whole life - somehow I've never bumped into it.
-- Lisa See

#Los Angeles #Whole Life #Movie Business

I love research. I'd go so far as to say I'm a research fanatic.
-- Lisa See

#Research

I am an eighth Chinese, and I come from a large Chinese-American family in Los Angeles.
-- Lisa See

#Chinese #Los Angeles

But there are certain books I would never put on a Kindle because you want to be able to look at graphs and photos or the footnotes and maps. You can't see that.
-- Lisa See

#Book #Looks #Maps

Don't ever feel that you have to hide who you are. Nothing good ever comes from keeping secrets like that.
-- Lisa See

#Keeping Secrets #Secret #Feels

And one of the interesting things about bound feet is that they never age.
-- Lisa See

#Feet #Interesting #Age

All women on earth-- and men, too for that matter-- hope for the kind of love that transforms us, raises us up out of the everyday, & gives us the courage to survive our little deaths: the heartache of unfulfilled dreams, of career and personal disappointments, of broken love affairs.
-- Lisa See

#Love #Dream #Disappointment

Dreaming, dreaming, dreaming -- weren't our dreams what gave us strength, hope, and desire?
-- Lisa See

#Dream #Desire

My heart is empty & my life has no value anymore. Each moment a thousand tears.
-- Lisa See

#Heart #Tears #Moments

I think all women have a friend who at some point dumped them or betrayed them or deeply disappointed them. And at the same time all women have a friend who they dumped or betrayed or hurt in some way. That's universal in women's friendships.
-- Lisa See

#Hurt #Thinking #Betrayed

Obey, obey, obey, then do what you want.
-- Lisa See

#Want #What You Want

My hardcover sales are 17% down in books but up 400% in electronics.
-- Lisa See

#Book #Electronics

The greatest calling of all is to have a literary life.
-- Lisa See

#Calling

For my entire life I longed for love. I knew it was not right for me — as a girl and later as a woman — to want or expect it, but I did, and this unjustified desire has been at the root of every problem I have experienced in my life.
-- Lisa See

#Girl #Roots #Desire

Gone were my girlish ideas about romantic love and my later ideas about sexual love. From Yi, I learned to appreciate deep-heart love. Peony in Love
-- Lisa See

#Heart #Romantic Love #Ideas

I know a lot about women and their suffering, but I still know almost nothing about men.
-- Lisa See

#Men #Suffering #Stills

The classics tell us that, in relationships, the one between teacher and student comes second only to the one between parent and child.
-- Lisa See

#Teacher #Children #Parent

We hug, but there are no tears. For every awful thing that's been said and done, she is my sister. Parents die, daughters grow up and marry out, but sisters are for life. She is the only person left in the world who shares my memories of our childhood, our parents, our Shanghai, our struggles, our sorrows, and, yes, even our moments of happiness and triumph. My sister is the one person who truly knows me, as I know her. The last thing May says to me is 'When our hair is white, we'll still have our sister love.
-- Lisa See

#Sister #Daughter #Growing Up

I wonder if there was anything I would have done differently. I hope I would have done everything differently, except I know everything would have turned out the same. That's the meaning of fate.
-- Lisa See

#Fate #Done #Wonder

People come in and out of our lives, and the true test of friendship is whether you can pick back up right where you left off the last time you saw each other.
-- Lisa See

#People #Tests #Lasts

Maybe we're all like that with our mothers. They seem ordinary until one day they're extraordinary.
-- Lisa See

#Mother #One Day #Ordinary

My love for him had never gone away but only changed, growing deeper like wine fermenting or pickles curing. It bore into me with the pervasiveness of water working its way to the center of a mountain.
-- Lisa See

#Wine #Water #Mountain

Perhaps he was afraid as I was that we'd be caught. Or perhaps he was breathing me in just as I was letting him come into my lungs, my eyes, my heart.
-- Lisa See

#Heart #Eye #Breathing

It's funny how in that moment I see things clearly. Am I beaten down? Yes. Have I allowed myself to become a victim? Somewhat. Am I afraid? Always. Does some part of me still long to fly away from this place? Absolutely. But I can't leave. Sam and I have built a life for Joy. It isn't perfect, but it's a life. My family's happiness means more to me that starting over again. Page 210
-- Lisa See

#Mean #Perfect #Long

When the sun is shining, think of the time it won't be, because even when you're sitting in your house with the doors shut, misfortune can fall from above. Page 279
-- Lisa See

#Fall #Thinking #Doors

i would rather be married to broken jade than flawless clay
-- Lisa See

#Broken #Clay #Flawless

We're told that men are strong & brave, but I think women know how to endure, accept defeat & bear physical & mental agony much better than men.
-- Lisa See

#Strong #Thinking #Men

Sisters, as you know, also have a unique relationship. This is the person who has known you your entire life, who should love you and stand by you no matter what, and yet it's your sister who knows exactly where to drive the knife to hurt you the most.
-- Lisa See

#Sister #Hurt #Love You

People say you need to be strong, smart, and lucky to survive hard times, war, a natural disaster, or physical torture. But I say emotional abuse—anxiety, fear, guilt, and degradation—is far worse and much harder to survive.
-- Lisa See

#Strong #War #Smart

You make choices that are good and sound, but the gods have other plans for you.
-- Lisa See

#Choices #Sound #Plans

A brave heart? It feels like a swollen and aching thing in my chest.
-- Lisa See

#Heart #Brave #Brave Heart

People write to me all the time, and I write back.
-- Lisa See

#Writing #People

Model communes are the ones where the leaders lie the best and the biggest.
-- Lisa See

#Lying #Leader #Communes

Snow Flower was my old same for life. I had a greater and deeper love for her than I could ever feel for a person who was my husband.
-- Lisa See

#Husband #Flower #Snow

She loves you. She's just forgotten how to show it.
-- Lisa See

#Love You #Forgotten #Shows

All these types of love come out of duty, respect, and gratitude. Most of them, as the women in my county know, are sources of sadness, rupture, and brutality.
-- Lisa See

#Gratitude #Sadness #Brutality

a laotong relationship is made by choice...when we first looked in each other's eyes in the palanquin I felt something special pass between us--like a spark to start a fire or a seed to grow rice. But a single spark is not enough to warm a room nor is a single seed enough to grow a fruitful crop. Deep love--true-heart love--must grow.
-- Lisa See

#Eye #Heart #Deep Love

Seeing something once is better than hearing about it a hundred times. Doing something once is better than seeing it a hundred times.
-- Lisa See

#Hearing #Hundred

You may be desperate, but never let anyone see you as anything less than a cultivated woman.
-- Lisa See

#May #Desperate

Our words had to be circumspect. We could not write anything too negative about our circumstances. This was tricky, since the very form of a married woman's letter needed to include the usual complaints -- that we were pathetic, powerless, worked to the bone, homesick, and sad. We were supposed to speak directly about our feelings without appearing ungrateful, no-account, or unfilial.
-- Lisa See

#Writing #Ungrateful #Feelings

You can't fight your fate...It is predestined.
-- Lisa See

#Fighting #Fate

When you don’t have much, having less isn’t so bad.
-- Lisa See

I am still learning about love. I thought I understood it--not just mother love, but the love for one's parents, for one's husband, and for one's laotong. I've experienced the other types of love--pity love, respectful love and gratitude love. But looking at our secret fan with its messages written between Snow Flower and me over many years, I see that I didn't value the most important love--deep-heart love.
-- Lisa See

#Mother #Gratitude #Husband

In every message she spoke of birds, of flight, of the world away. Even back then, she flew against what was presented to her. I wanted to cling to her wings and soar, no matter how intimidated I was.
-- Lisa See

#Wings #Bird #Matter

I didn't know you would be here last night, but you were. We can't fight fate. Instead, we must accept that fate has given us a special opportunity.
-- Lisa See

#Fighting #Fate #Opportunity

There is no life without death. That is the true meaning of yin and yang
-- Lisa See

#Yang #Yin And Yang

When I knew I couldn't suffer another moment of pain, and tears fell on my bloody bindings, my mother spoke softly into my ear, encouraging me to go one more hour, one more day, one more week, reminding me of the rewards I would have if I carried on a little longer. In this way, she taught me how to endure — not just the physical trials of footbinding and childbearing but the more torturous pain of the heart, mind, and soul.
-- Lisa See

#Mother #Pain #Heart

It used to happen in villages and towns in China that they would have - I guess you'd call them beauty contests - where all of the women of a particular village or town would be seated behind these screens or curtains with only their feet showing.
-- Lisa See

#Feet #Would Be #Village