Dorothy Allison famous quotes

Two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is that if we are not beautiful to each other, we cannot know beauty in any form.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Beautiful #Two #Three

Two or three things I know for sure, and one is that I'd rather go naked than wear the coat the world has made for me.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Two #Naked #Three

I need you to do more than survive. As writers, as revolutionaries, tell the truth, your truth in your own way. Do not buy into their system of censorship, imagining that if you drop this character or hide that emotion, you can slide through their blockades. Do not eat your heart out in the hope of pleasing them.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Heart #Character #Needs

Things come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Lying #Together #Deceit

Women lose their lives not knowing they can do something different. Men eat themselves up believing they have to be the thing they have been made. Children go crazy. Really, even children go crazy, believing the shape of the life they must live is as small and mean and broken as they are told.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Children #Crazy #Believe

The only magic we have is what we make in ourselves, the muscles we build up on the inside, the sense of belief we create from nothing.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Magic #Belief #Muscles

Women lose their lives not knowing they can do something different...I claimed myself and remade my life. Only when I knew I belonged to myself completely did I become capable of giving myself to another, of finding joy in desire, pleasure in our love, power in this body no one else owns.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Knowing #Giving #Joy

There is a place where we are always alone with our own mortality, where we must simply have something greater than ourselves to hold onto-God or history or politics or literature or a belief in the healing power of love, or even righteous anger.... A reason to believe, a way to take the world by the throat and insist that there is more to this life than we have ever imagined.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Believe #Healing #Literature

I have wanted everything as a writer and a woman, but most of all a world changed utterly by my revelations.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Change #World #Revelations

I am the only one who can tell the story of my life and say what it means.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Mean #Stories #Story Of My Life

Hunger makes you restless. you dream about food - not just any food, but perfect food, the best food, magical meals, famous and awe-inspiring, the one piece of meat, the exact taste of buttery corn, tomatoes so ripe they split and sweeten the air, beans so crisp they snap between the teeth, gravy like mother's milk singing to your bloodstream.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Mother #Dream #Air

Two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is the way you can both hate and love something you are not sure you understand.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Hate #Two #And Love

I did not begin with craft, I began with strong feelings and worked toward craft.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Strong #Feelings #Crafts

Behind my carefully buttoned collar is my nakedness, the struggle to find clean clothes, food, meaning, and money. Behind sex is rage, behind anger is love, behind this moment is silence, years of silence.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Sex #Struggle #Love Is

Class, race, sexuality, gender and all other categories by which we categorize and dismiss each other need to be excavated from the inside.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Race #Class #Needs

Write the story that you were always afraid to tell. I swear to you that there is magic in it, and if you show yourself naked for me, I'll be naked for you. It will be our covenant
-- Dorothy Allison

#Writing #Magic #Naked

Fiction is a piece of truth that turns lies to meaning.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Lying #Writing #Fiction

I have a terrible memory.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Memories #Terrible

One of the strengths I derive from my class background is that I am accustomed to contempt.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Class #Backgrounds #Contempt

I don't believe that there is any true friendship without a bond of honor, and the honor in friendship is the respect you give the other that she also gives you.
-- Dorothy Allison

#True Friend #Believe #Giving

Babies change things, open doors you thought were shut, close others. Make you into something you never been.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Baby #Doors

It ain't that you get religion. Religion gets you and then milks you dry. Won't let you drink a little whiskey. Won't let you make no fat-assed girls grin and giggle. Won't let you do a damn thing except work for what you'll get in the hearafter. I live in the here and now.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Girl #Dry #Littles

I put on the page a third look at what I've seen in life - the reinvented experience of a cross-eyed working-class lesbian, addicted to violence, language and hope, who has made the decision to live, is determined to live, on the page and on the street, for me and mine.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Determination #Class #Decision

Life ain't the movies.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Life

Beauty, my first girlfriend said to me, is that inner quality often associated with great amounts of leisure time.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Girlfriend #Quality #Leisure

People begin to write in order to create what they have not found and, a little bit, to give something back.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Writing #Order #People

Two or three things I know, two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is that to go on living I have to tell stories, that stories are the one sure way I know to touch the heart and change the world
-- Dorothy Allison

#Heart #Two #Three

I think I would have died if there hadn't been the women's movement. It gave me a vision that I could do something different, and it gave me an understanding that I wasn't a monster, or sport, or a betrayer of my family.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Sports #Thinking #Understanding

I can't write what I don't believe in.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Believe #Writing

I think I would have died if there hadn't been the women's movement.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Thinking #Movement

I'll tell you the secret. When you begin with a character, you want to begin by creating a villain.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Character #Creating #Secret

I claimed myself and remade my life.
-- Dorothy Allison

I'm still very blunt: If you want to be a writer, get a day job. The fact that I have actually been able to make a living at it is astonishing.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Jobs #Want #Able

The bottom line is I'm writing to save the dead. I'm writing to save the people I have lost, some of whose bodies are still walking around.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Writing #People #Body

Behind the story I tell is the one I don't...Behind the story you hear is the one I wish I could make you hear.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Wish #Stories #Behinds

Writing is the only way I know to demand justice from an uncaring universe.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Writing #Justice #Demand

When I was growing up, I always read horror books, while my sister read romance novels.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Sister #Growing Up #Book

Gravy is the simplest, tastiest, most memory-laden dish I know how to make: a little flour, salt and pepper, crispy bits of whatever meat anchored the meal, a couple of cups of water or milk and slow stirring to break up lumps.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Couple #Memories #Water

Change, when it comes, cracks everything open.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Healing #Cracks

fiction is the great lie that tells the truth
-- Dorothy Allison

#Lying #Fiction #Telling The Truth

I was born trash in a land where the people all believe themselves natural aristocrats.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Believe #Land #People

I told her, Don't touch me that way. Don't come at me with that sour-cream smile. Come at me as if I were worth your life - the life we make together. Take me like a turtle whose shell must be cracked, whose heart is ice, who needs your heat. Love me like a warrior, sweat up to your earlobes and all your hope between your teeth. Love me so I know I am at least as important as anything you have ever wanted.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Heart #Warrior #Turtles

... suffering does not ennoble. It destroys. To resist destruction, self-hatred, or lifelong hopelessness, we have to throw off the conditioning of being despised, the fear of becoming the they that is talked about so dismissively, to refuse lying myths and easy moralities, to see ourselves as human, flawed, and extraordinary. All of us extraordinary
-- Dorothy Allison

#Lying #Self #Hatred

Don't go taking that gospel stuff seriously. It's nice to clean you out now and then, but it ain't for real. It's like bad whiskey. Run through you fast and leave you with pain.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Running #Pain #Real

That was what gospel was meant to do - make you hate and love yourself at the same time, make you ashamed and glorified.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Hate #Love Yourself #And Love

Mama learned to laugh with them, before they could laugh at her, and to do it so well no one could be sure what she really thought or felt.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Laughing #Mama #Wells

Everything that comes to us is a blessing or a test. That’s all you need to know in this life…just the certainty that God’s got His eye on you, that He knows what you are made of, what you need to grow on. Why,questioning’s a sin, it’s pointless. He will show you your path in His own good time. And long as I remember that, I’m fine.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Eye #Blessing #Long

My heart broke all over again. I wanted my life back, my mama, but I knew I would never have that. The child I had been was gone with the child she had been. We were new people, and we didn't know each other anymore. I shook my head desperately.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Children #Heart #People

The horror of class stratification, racism, and prejudice is that some people begin to believe that the security of their families and communities depends on the oppression of others, that for some to have good lives there must be others whose lives are truncated and brutal.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Good Life #Believe #Class

Delia picked at the raw sores of her conscience...Drunk or sober, Delia lived in the small town in her heart, ignoring the world in which all her love had turned to grief.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Grief #Heart #Drunk

I was born in 1949, and by the time I was 10, I figured out that my hope chest was not aimed in the same direction everybody else's was. And that life was going to be very, very complicated. And that I could either be provocative and declamatory, or shy, retiring and scared.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Shy #Scared #Complicated

Women lose their lives not knowing they can do something different..." from Two or Three Things i Know For Sure
-- Dorothy Allison

#Two #Knowing #Different

I wanted her to to go on talking and understand without me saying anything. I wanted her to love me enough to leave him, to pack us up and take us away from him, to kill him if need be. (107)
-- Dorothy Allison

#Talking #Needs #Goes On

Piece by piece, my mother is being stolen from me.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Mother #Pieces #Stolen

I did things I did not understand for reasons I could not begin to explain just to be in motion, to be trying to do something, change something in a world I wanted desperately to make over but could not imagine for myself.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Trying #World #Imagine

Why write stories? To join the conversation.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Writing #Stories #Conversation

she got a reputation for an easy smile and a sharp tongue, and using one to balance the other, she seemed friendly but distant
-- Dorothy Allison

#Balance #Friendly #Tongue

People don't do right because of the fear of God or love of him. You do right because the world doesn't make sense if you don't.
-- Dorothy Allison

#People #World #Make Sense

I fell into shame like a suicide throws herself into a river. (253)
-- Dorothy Allison

#Suicide #Rivers #Shame

The worst thing in the world was the way I felt when I wanted us to be like the families in the books in the library, when I just wanted Daddy Glen to love me like the father in Robinson Crusoe. (209)
-- Dorothy Allison

#Father #Book #Daddy

I was no Cherokee. I was no warrior. I was nobody special. I was just a girl, scared and angry. When I saw myself in Daddy Glen's eyes, I wanted to die. No, I wanted to be already dead, cold and gone. Everything felt hopeless. He looked at me and I was ashamed of myself. It was like sliding down an endless hole, seeing myself at the bottom, dirty, ragged, poor, stupid.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Girl #Stupid #Dirty

He never said "Don't tell your mama." He never had to say it. I did not know how to tell anyone what I felt, what scared me and shamed me... (109)
-- Dorothy Allison

#Mama #Scared #Said

I want hard stories, I demand them from myself. Hard stories are worth the difficulty. It seems to me the only way I have forgiven anything, understood anything, is through that process of opening up to my own terror and pain and reexamining it, re-creating it in the story, and making it something different, making it meaningful - even if the meaning is only in the act of the telling.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Meaningful #Pain #Opening Up

stories are the one sure way I know to touch the heart and change the world.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Heart #Stories #World

It has seemed to me that literature, as I meant it, was embattled, that it was increasingly difficult to find writing doing what I thought literature should do - which was simply to push people into changing their ideas about the world, and to go further, to encourage us in the work of changing the world, to making it more just and more truly human.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Writing #Ideas #People

And of course these days I feel like there is a nation of us - displaced southerners and children of the working class. We listen to Steve Earle, Mary J. Blige, and k.d. lang. We devour paperback novels and tell evil mean stories, value stubbornness above patience and a sense of humor more than a college education. We claim our heritage with a full appreciation of how often it has been disdained. And let me promise you, you do not want to make us angry.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Appreciation #Children #Mean

Twenty years after we had left so fierce and proud, we were all right back where we had started, yoked to each other and the same old drama.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Drama #Years #Twenties

my life has been saved over and over again by picking up a book in which someone captured the whole experience of being despised and not dying.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Book #Survival #Dying

I tell my students you have an absolute right to write about people you know and love. You do. But the kicker is you have a responsibility to make the characters large enough that you will not have sinned against them.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Love You #Writing #Character

And while it is true that I got the best woman in the world, I don't think love saves you.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Thinking #World

I wanted to start over completely, to begin again as new people with nothing of the past left over. I wanted to run away from who we had been seen to be, who we had been... It's the first thing I think of when trouble comes - the geographic solution. Change your name, leave town, disappear, make yourself over. What hides behind that impulse is the conviction that the life you have lived, the person you are, is valueless, better off abandoned, that running away is easier than trying to change things, that change itself is not possible.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Running #Thinking #Past

Every kid I meet who's a reader has got something like that, their fantasy world. And science fiction is the best, especially for girls because it's the one place where you can do the forbidden.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Girl #Kids #Fiction

Teenagers are free verse walking around on two legs.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Teenager #Two #Legs

It's important to set challenges that you're not sure you're equal to.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Challenges #Important #Equal

It's fun to tease people about where fiction and life intersect.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Fun #People #Fiction

For years and years, I convinced myself that I was unbreakable, an animal with an animal strength or something not human at all. Me, I told people, I take damage like a wall, a brick wall that never falls down, never feels anything, never flinches or remembers. I am one woman but I carry in my body all the stories I have ever been told, women I have known, women who have taken damage until they tell themselves they can feel no pain at all.
-- Dorothy Allison

#Wall #Pain #Fall