Sam Keen famous quotes

There are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is 'Where am I going?' and the second is 'Who will go with me?' If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble.
-- Sam Keen

#Men #Two #Order

We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
-- Sam Keen

#Love #Anniversary #Marriage

The more you become a connoisseur of gratitude, the less you are a victim of resentment, depression, and despair. Gratitude will act as an elixir that will gradually dissolve the hard shell of your ego-your need to posses and control-and transform you into a generous being. The sense of gratitude produces true spiritual alchemy, makes us magnanimous-lar ge souled.
-- Sam Keen

#Spiritual #Gratitude #Ego

To love is to return to a home we never left, to remember who we are.
-- Sam Keen

#Cute #Home #Love Is

Compassion begins with the acknowledgment of the single inescapable truth that is the foundation for the possibility of love between human beings - an awareness of the tragic sense of life.
-- Sam Keen

#Love Is #Compassion #Foundation

Consensual paranoia - the pathology of the normal person who is a member of a war-justifying society - forms the template from which all the images of the enemy are created. By studying the logic of paranoia, we can see why certain archetypes of the enemy must necessarily recur, no matter what the historical circumstances.
-- Sam Keen

#War #Historical #Enemy

Trust what moves you most deeply.
-- Sam Keen

#Moving

To be on a quest is nothing more or less than to become an asker of questions.
-- Sam Keen

#Journey #Quests

The sacred is discovered in what moves and touches us, in what makes us tremble.
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#Moving #Sacred

Soul grows in communion. Word by word, story by story, for better or worse, we build our world. From true conversation - speaking and listening - communication deepens into compassion and creates community.
-- Sam Keen

#Communication #Compassion #Our World

Enter each day with the expectation that the happenings of the day may contain a clandestine message addressed to you personally. Expect omens, epiphanies, casual blessings and teachers who unknowingly speak to your condition.
-- Sam Keen

#Teacher #Blessing #Expectations

Burnout is nature's way of telling you, you've been going through the motions your soul has departed; you're a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker. False optimism is like administrating stimulants to an exhausted nervous system.
-- Sam Keen

#Optimism #Walking Dead #Soul

Call it "womb awe" or even "womb worship" but it's not simple envy. I don't remember even wanting to be a woman. But each of the three times I have been present at the birth of one of my children, I have been overwhelmed by a sense of reverence... It was quite suddenly, the first day of creation; the Goddess giving birth to a world... Like men since the beginning of time I wondered: What can I ever create that will equal the magnificence of this new life?
-- Sam Keen

#Children #Simple #Men

Neurotic identity crises come when our defense mechanisms have been too successful and we're encapsulated in the fortress we have constructed with nothing to refresh us in our solitary confinement. So we play the old movies with their stale fears and their unrealistic hopes until we become bored enough to risk disarmament and engagement.
-- Sam Keen

#Successful #Play #Bored

The root of humanly caused evil is not man's animal nature, not territorial aggression, or innate selfishness, but our need to gain self-esteem, deny our mortality, and achieve a heroic self-image. Our desire for the best is the cause of the worst.
-- Sam Keen

#Self Esteem #Animal #Men

A society in which vocation and job are separated for most people gradually creates an economy that is often devoid of spirit, one that frequently fills our pocketbooks at the cost of emptying our souls.
-- Sam Keen

#Jobs #People #Soul

I suspect that we are all recipients of cosmic love notes. Messages, omens, voices, cries, revelations, and appeals are homogenized into each day's events. If only we knew how to listen, to read the signs.
-- Sam Keen

#Voice #Each Day #Messages

What shapes our lives are the questions we ask, refuse to ask, or never think to ask.
-- Sam Keen

#Thinking #Shapes #Favourite

The lover heals the world not by a vague and abstract love for everybody and everything, but by becoming passionate and vowing fidelity to concrete relationships, persons, institutions, and places.
-- Sam Keen

#Love #Passionate #World

In the degree that we remember and retell our stories and create new ones we become the authors, the authorities, of our own lives.
-- Sam Keen

#Journey #Degrees #Stories

As a mode of perception that often becomes a style of life, paranoia weaves around the vulnerable self or group an air-tight metaphysic and world view. Paranoia is an antireligious mysticism based on the feeling or perception that the world in general, and others in particular, are against me or us. Reality is perceived as hostile. By contrast, the religious mystic experiences the ground of being as basically friendly to the deepest needs of the self. That which is unknown, strange, or beyond our comprehension is with and for rather than against us.
-- Sam Keen

#Religious #Reality #Air

The more you become a connoisseur of gratitude, the less you are a victim of resentment, depression, and despair.
-- Sam Keen

#Gratitude #Despair #Resentment

We can only choose whether we will feel and not what we will feel.
-- Sam Keen

#Feels

I try to steer away from high metaphysical belief because I think we humans do best when we realize that we don't know all that much.
-- Sam Keen

#Thinking #Trying #Belief

Chronological time is what we measure by clocks and calendars; it is always linear, orderly, quantifiable, and mechanical. Kairotic time is organic, rhythmic, bodily, leisurely, and aperiodic; it is the inner cadence that brings fruit to ripeness, a woman to childbirth, a man to change the direction of his life.
-- Sam Keen

#Men #Cadence #Fruit

What happens if I try to build a life dedicated to avoiding all danger and all unnecessary risk?
-- Sam Keen

#Philosophy #Medicine #Risk

If we had a better understanding of the ways we think about enemies, we might be able to think of more rational ways of settling conflict.
-- Sam Keen

#Hero #Thinking #Understanding

Our minds, bodies, feelings, relationships are all informed by our questions. What you ask is who you are. What you find depends on what you search for. And what shapes our lives are the questions we ask, refuse to ask, or never think of asking.
-- Sam Keen

#Thinking #Feelings #Mind

The first part of the spiritual journey should properly be called psychological rather than spiritual because it involves peeling away the myths and illusions that have misinformed us.
-- Sam Keen

#Spiritual #Journey #Soul

Good men and good women have fire in the belly. We are fierce. Don't mess with us if you're looking for someone who will always be 'nice' to you. Nice gets you a C+ in life. We don't always smile, talk in a soft voice, or engage in indiscriminate hugs. In the loving struggle between the sexes we thrust and parry.
-- Sam Keen

#Sex #Nice #Struggle

A man must go on a quest / to discover the sacred fire / in the sanctuary of his own belly / to ignite the flame in his heart / to fuel the blaze in the hearth / to rekindle his ardor for the earth
-- Sam Keen

#Heart #Men #Flames

Myth is the system of basic metaphors, images, and stories that informs the perceptions, memories, and aspirations of a people; provides the rationale for its institutions, rituals and power structure; and gives a map of the purpose and stages of life.
-- Sam Keen

#Memories #Giving #People

Paranoia reduces anxiety and guilt by transferring to the other all the characteristics one does not want to recognize in oneself. It is maintained by selective perception and recall. We only see and acknowledge those negative aspects of the enemy that support the stereotype we have already created.
-- Sam Keen

#Support #Anxiety #Perception

If some incarnation of evil as unambiguous as Hitler appeared again, I would have no moral qualms about killing the enemy. But in the modern world of moral murkiness, I prefer to keep my hands as clean of enemy blood as possible.
-- Sam Keen

#Blood #Hands #Evil

You come to love not by discovering the ideal individual, yet by figuring out how to see a blemished individual flawlessly.
-- Sam Keen

#Individual #Discovering

The telling of your stories is a revolutionary act.
-- Sam Keen

#Stories #Revolutionary

In the beginning, we create the enemy. Before the weapon comes the image. We think others to death and then invent the battle-axe or ballistic missiles with which to actually kill them. Propaganda precedes technology.
-- Sam Keen

#Thinking #Technology #Enemy

The 'still, small voice' of God never calls on me to be like another man. It appeals to me to rise to my full stature and fulfill the promise that sleeps within my being.
-- Sam Keen

#Sleep #Men #Voice

We all yearn to fly. We are creatures of longing. We do not need to [physically fly] to be airborne. What I call the aerial instinct-the drive to transcend our present condition- is the defining characteristic of a human being. We are restless animals, eternal travelers who are forever in the process of becoming. Consciousness itself is a flight from the here and now to the beyond. Our reach always exceeds our grasp, which is what Heaven is for ...
-- Sam Keen

#Animal #Forever #Heaven

There is no easy formula for determining right and wrong livelihood, but it is essential to keep the question alive. To return the sense of dignity and honor to manhood, we have to stop pretending that we can make a living at something that is trivial or destructive and still have sense of legitimate self-worth. A society in which vocation and job are separated for most people gradually creates an economy that is often devoid of spirit, one that frequently fills our pocketbooks at the cost of emptying our souls.
-- Sam Keen

#Jobs #Self Worth #People

Freud articulated the standard opinion when he asked with supposed seriousness, 'What does a woman want?'... Today the question that is the yeast in the social dough is, 'What do men want?
-- Sam Keen

#Men #Yeast #Want

The traditional gender ideals of the strong-silent man who plays his cards close to his chest and the mysterious woman who disguises her feelings with coyness go so far as to make a virtue of being unavailable and secretive. But wholehearted intimacy can develop only where two people are equally forthcoming and self-revelatory. To take the risk of loving, we must become vulnerable enough to test the radical proposition that knowledge of another and self-revelation will ultimately increase rather than decrease love. It is an awe-ful risk.
-- Sam Keen

#Strong #Men #Self

We learn to fly not by being fearless, but by the daily practice of courage.
-- Sam Keen

#Practice #Fearless #Learn To Fly

You can know what's in your life when you know what's in your heart.
-- Sam Keen

#Heart

The sense of gratitude produces true spiritual alchemy, makes us magnanimous - large souled.
-- Sam Keen

#Spiritual #Gratitude #Produce

The Greeks invented the idea of nemesis to show how any single virtue, stubbornly maintained gradually changes into a destructive vice. Our success, our industry, our habit of work have produced our economic nemesis. Work made modern men great, but now threatens to usurp our souls, to inundate the earth in things and trash, to destroy our capacity to love and wonder.
-- Sam Keen

#Men #Ideas #Greek

Wise people are able to give themselves gracefully to seemingly contradictory experiences, because they know that they belong to different seasons of life, all of which are necessary to the whole. Spring and winter, growth and decay, creativity and fallowness, health and sickness, power and impotence, and life and death all belong within the economy of being.
-- Sam Keen

#Wise #Wisdom #Spring

To sustain love, a man and a woman must continually be marrying and divorcing, moving with, against, away from, and beyond each other, saying 'yes' and 'no'.
-- Sam Keen

#Moving #Men #Saying Yes

Mounting an expedition to actualize a Compassionate Commonwealth of all peoples...is the great spiritual challenge of our time.
-- Sam Keen

#Spiritual #Peace #Challenges

Each day befriend a single fear, and the miscellaneous terrors of being human will never join together to form such a morass of vague anxiety that it rules your life from the shadows of the unconscious. We learn to fly not by being fearless, but by the daily practice of courage.
-- Sam Keen

#Practice #Anxiety #Fearless