Joyce Maynard famous quotes

She felt everything too deeply, it was like the world was too much for her.
-- Joyce Maynard

#World #Too Much

It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Family #Mother #Children

A person who deserves my loyalty receives it.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Loyalty #Persons #Deserve

The word NO, carries a lot more meaning when spoken by a parent who also knows how to say yes.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Parent

A good home must be made, not bought.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Home #Made

It's sad but true that if you focus your attention on housework and meal preparation and diapers, raising children does start to look like drudgery pretty quickly. On the other hand, if you see yourself as nothing less than your child's nurturer, role model, teacher, spiritual guide, and mentor, your days take on a very different cast.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Spiritual #Teacher #Children

A good home must be made, not bought. In the end, it's not track lighting or a sun room that brings light into a kitchen.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Home #Light #Track

Before I had children I always wondered whether their births would be, for me, like the ultimate in gym class failures. And I discovered instead... that I'd finally found my sport.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Sports #Children #Class

It's not only children who grow. Parents do too...
-- Joyce Maynard

#Children #Parent #Only Child

To share our stories is not only a worthwhile endeavor for the storyteller, but for those who hear our stories and feel less alone because of it.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Stories #Share #Worthwhile

In the event of an oxygen shortage on airplanes, mothers of young children are always reminded to put on their own oxygen mask first, to better assist the children with theirs. The same tactic is necessary on terra firma. There's no way of sustaining our children if we don't first rescue ourselves. I don't call that selfish behavior. I call it love.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Mother #Children #Selfish

The silence was part of the story I wanted to tell.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Silence #Stories #Wanted

For a parent, it's hard to recognize the significance of your work when you're immersed in the mundane details. Few of us, as we run the bath water or spread the peanut butter on the bread, proclaim proudly, "I'm making my contribution to the future of the planet." But with the exception of global hunger, few jobs in the world of paychecks and promotions compare in significance to the job of parent.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Running #Jobs #Water

Wherever it is you make your home, there is always this other place, this other person, calling to you. Come to me. Come back.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Home #Calling #Persons

One of the sad realities of being a parent is that the same stuff you know is exciting, educational, and enriching in your child'slife is often messy, smelly and exhausting to deal with.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Children #Educational #Reality

There is a theme that runs through my work, and that is: the toxic property of keeping secrets.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Running #Keeping Secrets #Toxic

If a man wishes to truly not be written about, he would do well not to write letters to 18-year-old girls, inviting them into his life.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Girl #Writing #Men

I have no doubt that over the years my children will find plenty of things about me to criticize. But something tells me that twenty years from now not one of them will sit on some therapist's couch complaining because their mother didn't spend enough time vacuuming up glitter.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Mother #Children #Years

For 25 years, I did take my responsibilities as a pleaser of others sufficiently seriously.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Responsibility #Years #Pleasers

I continued to protect him with my silence.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Silence #Protect

Not only did I avoid speaking of Salinger; I resisted thinking about him. I did not reread his letters to me. The experience had been too painful.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Pain #Thinking #Letters

Many women my age have known the experience of giving up crucial parts of themselves to please the man they love.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Giving Up #Men #Age

Imagine if you succeeded in making the world perfect for your children what a shock the rest of life would be for them.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Inspirational #Children #Perfect

I have long observed that the act of writing is viewed, by some, as an elite and otherworldly act, all the more so if a person isn't paid for what she writes.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Writing #Long #Persons

The painter who feels obligated to depict his subjects as uniformly beautiful or handsome and without flaws will fall short of making art.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Beautiful #Art #Fall

I believe every one of us possesses a fundamental right to tell our own story.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Believe #Stories #Fundamentals

The portrait of my parents is a complicated one, but lovingly drawn.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Parent #Portraits #Complicated

At Home in the World is the story of a young woman, raised in some difficult circumstances, and how she survives. It tells a story of redemption, not victimhood.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Home #Redemption #World

[On home births:] In a house where there had been three people, there were now four, although no one had come in the door.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Home #Doors #People

It troubles me that people speak about writing for money as ugly and distasteful.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Writing #People #Ugly

Those who rhapsodize about the ease and joy of childhood have perhaps forgotten what it's like to be 12 years old.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Years #Childhood #Joy

When people ask what I write about, that's what I tell them: 'The drama of human relationships.' I'm not even close to running out of material.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Running #Drama #Writing

If I told you about all the stories I don't tell, I would be violating the very boundaries I set for myself.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Would Be #Stories #Boundaries

As for me, I've chosen to follow a simple course: Come clean. And wherever possible, live your life in a way that won't leave you tempted to lie. Failing that, I'd rather be disliked for who I truly am than loved for who I am not. So, I tell my story. I write it down. I even publish it. Sometimes this is a humbling experience. Sometimes it's embarrassing. But I haul around no terrible secrets.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Lying #Writing #Simple

Although Salinger had long since cut me out of his life completely and made it plain that he had nothing but contempt for me, the thought of becoming the object of his wrath was more than I felt ready to take on.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Cutting #Wrath #Long

Nothing like being visible, publishing one's work, and speaking openly about one's life, to disabuse the world of the illusion of one's perfection and purity.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Perfection #World #Illusion

The big dramas that fascinate me are the quiet ones that happen behind closed doors in so-called ordinary families.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Drama #Doors #Ordinary

More than any other setting - more than battlefields or boardrooms or a spaceship headed for intergalactic travel - I'll put my money on the family to provide an endless source of comedy, tragedy and intrigue.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Tragedy #Comedy #Source

Growing up in the fifties and sixties, I can only remember knowing one child, ever, whose parents got a divorce, and hardly any whose mother 'worked' at anything besides raising her children.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Mother #Children #Growing Up

I do not outline. There are writers I know and count as my friends who certainly do it the other way, but for me, part of the adventure is not knowing how it's going to turn out.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Adventure #Knowing #Way

I was giving a speech one time, and the woman who introduced me said, 'Well, she used to be J. D. Salinger's girlfriend. I thought, 'God, is that all I've been?' I didn't want to be reduced to that.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Girlfriend #Giving #Want

Long after Salinger sent me away, I continued to believe his standards and expectations were the best ones.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Believe #Long #Expectations

When I was 12 years old, I read 'Nancy Drew' mysteries and biographies of Madame Curie and Florence Nightingale and books about girls who love horses or go to nursing school. I belonged to the Girl Scouts and got A's in school and rarely disobeyed my parents. I still kept a collection of Barbie dolls in my room, and I almost never spoke to boys.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Girl #Horse #Book

It's a great thing when a man knows how to dance, she said. When a man can dance, the world is his oyster." Adele, Henry's Mother
-- Joyce Maynard

#Mother #Men #Oysters

You lay your hand against his skin and just rib his back. Blow into his ear. Press that baby up against your own skin and walk outside with him, where the night air will sourround him, and moonlight fall on his face. Whistle, maybe. Dance. Hum. Pray. (how to calm a crying baby)
-- Joyce Maynard

#Baby #Fall #Night

The real drug, I came to believe, was love.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Real #Believe #Drug

No, I said. I didn't remember that. There was so much to remember, sometimes the best thing was to forget.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Remember #Sometimes #Forget

I think of myself as a realistic writer, not a creator of soap opera or melodrama.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Thinking #Opera #Soap

I had known there had been a serial killer on Mount Tamalpais, and it felt so incongruous in such a beautiful, peaceful spot.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Beautiful #Peaceful #Serial Killer

I believed my story would be helpful to young women my daughter's age, who are still in the process of forming themselves as women, and in need of encouragement to remain true to themselves.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Mother #Daughter #Encouragement

I compromised my ability to tell my story, at the most basic level.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Stories #Levels #Ability

My job is writing. I get paid to do it. When was the last time you heard someone challenge a doctor for making money off of cancer?
-- Joyce Maynard

#Jobs #Cancer #Writing

Some literary types subscribe to the notion that being a writer like Salinger entitles a person to remain free of the standards that might apply to mere mortals.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Being Free #Might #Salinger

Every child, woman, and man should possess license to speak or sing in his or her true voice.
-- Joyce Maynard

#Children #Men #Voice