"One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don't seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser's friends may think the world of him. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol. He may simply not fit anyone's image of a cruel or intimidating person. So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser."

-- Lundy Bancroft

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“an imitator is always a poor example.”
“Soil with a lot of manure in it produces abundant crops; water that is too clear has no fish. Therefore, enlightened people should maintain the capacity to accept impurities and should not be solitary perfectionists.”
“What starts out here as a mass movement ends up as a racket, a cult, or a corporation.”
“As long as we avoid the creative, we are condemned to reaction.”

Source : Paula Gunn Allen (1998). “Off the Reservation: Reflections on Boundary-busting Border-crossing Loose Canons”, Boston, Mass. : Beacon Press
“You get in a smart crack, and everyone laughs and kikis because you've found a flaw and exaggerated it, then you've got a good read going.”
“Parents have to really talk to their children before they leave home.”
“Southerners have never been afraid of seasoning. It's kind of the other way around; our seasoning is afraid of us.”

Source : "Deen Does 'Southern' Fare ... With A Stick Of Butter". "Morning Edition" with Steve Inskeep, www.npr.org. October 11, 2011.
“Find something that makes you happy, like looking at beautiful pictures, or, if you're able, listening to beautiful music, or sitting by the window and looking outside - small things like that can be absolutely huge.”

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